I don't know if I've ever talked about it here, but my biological father and I do not have a good relationship at all.
Over the years he's just been a really bad role model, one as a child I looked up too, and because of that I have some very pathetic bad habits as a result of him. These aren't limited to having problems with porn, self confidence, and constant self doubt.
Without going to much into the past before I bring up what's happening right now, at like 9-10 he pretty much had playboys in my face, pent houses "accidentally" lying around and other such stuff, and it really messed up my psyche of women for awhile, and it's had a huge thing to do with my self confidence in talking to them because I have a mind that wanders, and my dad didn't help even further by pressuring me to get girlfriends, sexitize them and such because "BY 13 I WAS HAVING SEX DYLAN" and shit like that. And he won't accept the fact that I don't want to be like him, he's told me to drop out of college to join network marketing because he "knows" there's a salesman in me, and that videogame design and music shouldn't be a career. Every time in the past I'd disagree on something it was "My mom poisoning my mind" and bullshit like that, so to him I'm just my mom's drone, not a unique individual with my own thoughts on the world and my own feelings, no those are my moms just being projected through me.
This has led to me just flat out ignoring his calls in the past, and this year he tried reconnecting with me after about a year or two of me ignoring him. First time it was nice, we just talked about life and saw a flick, but after that he started pressuring me to join this new "will definitely get me rich" network marketing business, and he kept asking me to get family members phone numbers for him so that he can "help" them and get me "making money". To him I should be able to make games for fun, not a career, and he thinks Network Marketing is the answer. I got sick of this and started to ignore his calls again. His newest tactic of response is to harass my mom and other family members and telling them he needs to talk to me. I've told him I have two jobs, one part time, one full time, and school. Both jobs run late into the night so I work all night, and sleep all day, and then school. I don't have much free time, but to him I'm just lying and that I'm not busy.
He's started calling me at all hours of the day, and most of the time I'd be sleeping or at work. He started leaving me very rude and mean spirited text messages saying how I can't spare my "precious time" for my own father and shit so when he did call when I had free time I said fuck that and didn't answer.
Go back a few days ago and my step dad(who I consider dad) and I aer watching a movie, around 1 am, it's halfway over and we're getting tired and my bio dad calls. I ignore the call because I didn't want to keep my dad up and thought I'd text him after the movie asking him what he wants. He just texts me immediately after "Your grandma just got out of surgery, she's doing good. I thought you might care but you probably don't."
I was just flabbergasted. Why send mean messages and accusatory bullshit when you could have just said we need to talk about my grandma?! Next day I text him I've gotta head to work but to let me know whats up with grandma, and then I'll call. He tells me he won't tell me whats wrong with her unless I call and that this busy excuse is crap.
Now today he texts "SLEEPING OR WORKING?!" and I just ignore it, but a few minutes later my mom comes down to my room to tell me he called her. He yelled at MY mom, accusing her of telling me not to call when she's told me I need to call and get it over with, accused me of being on drugs, and when she told him "Jon, he works two jobs and goes to school, I don't even see him as often anymore, he sleeps, works, goes to school, and doesn't have much off time."
He responded "I know that's bullshit, I know my son is lazy."
I've had it with this man. I'm going to call tonight to see whats up with my grandma, but if he starts shouting I'm telling him not to call me anymore and hanging up. I'm so sick of this bullshit