The Depressed/Angry Thread.

[cramx3]

This is going to sound cynical, but it is not in any way. She did you a favor. There was no room in her life for you and she wasn't going to string you along. I know it sounds shitty but you will get through it.

Perfectly said Tim! When my last girlfriend before my wife and I broke up because she fell out of love, I literally couldn't breathe let alone sleep eat or function. It truly felt like my world ended... it took a while of soul searching and practicing self love and care that I finally realized how that relationship served a purpose to my growth, I refer to it as collateral beauty. I learned from the pain and the overall experience that I didn't need anyone but myself and when I was ok with that, eventually I met someone I truly loved, not needed, and we now have been together 30 years with 3 amazing kids. Its true, you can't see it now but you will, please trust that.

I went through a similar experience in May 2019 when a girl I loved broke up with me and am now in a much better relationship.  It'll take time, but you'll get through it and in the end, you'll find the right one.

[TAC]

This is going to sound cynical, but it is not in any way. She did you a favor. There was no room in her life for you and she wasn't going to string you along. I know it sounds shitty but you will get through it.

Perfectly said Tim! When my last girlfriend before my wife and I broke up because she fell out of love, I literally couldn't breathe let alone sleep eat or function. It truly felt like my world ended... it took a while of soul searching and practicing self love and care that I finally realized how that relationship served a purpose to my growth, I refer to it as collateral beauty. I learned from the pain and the overall experience that I didn't need anyone but myself and when I was ok with that, eventually I met someone I truly loved, not needed, and we now have been together 30 years with 3 amazing kids. Its true, you can't see it now but you will, please trust that.

Tom, reread that bolded part back to yourself. 


Been through it as well. 10 years, got married, and was told out of the blue that she didn't know if she wanted to be married anymore. And it wasn't even my idea to get married!

Still, it was a world turned upside down event. All I knew and related to was tied into that relationship. The challenge was how to extricate my own experiences in my own life during that time together and make them stand on their own. It really helped the healing process.

[Glasser]

Tim the bold part means its nice be with someone you want to be with, not "need" meaning be codependent. Its true means what YOU wrote is true. What am I missing?

edit! I met someone I truly loved? Lol. Ok ill fix it.

[Glasser]

This is going to sound cynical, but it is not in any way. She did you a favor. There was no room in her life for you and she wasn't going to string you along. I know it sounds shitty but you will get through it.

Perfectly said Tim! When my last girlfriend before my wife and I broke up because she fell out of love, I literally couldn't breathe let alone sleep eat or function. It truly felt like my world ended... it took a while of soul searching and practicing self love and care that I finally realized how that relationship served a purpose to my growth, I refer to it as collateral beauty. I learned from the pain and the overall experience that I didn't need anyone but myself and when I was ok with that, eventually I met someone that I fell in love with, not needed, thete is a difference....and we now have been together 30 years with 3 amazing kids. Its true, you can't see it now but you will, please trust that.

Tom, reread that bolded part back to yourself. 


Been through it as well. 10 years, got married, and was told out of the blue that she didn't know if she wanted to be married anymore. And it wasn't even my idea to get married!

Still, it was a world turned upside down event. All I knew and related to was tied into that relationship. The challenge was how to extricate my own experiences in my own life during that time together and make them stand on their own. It really helped the healing process.

[TAC]

Never mind. PM sent. I'm old and senile.

[wolfking]

I was reading that looking for a nugget too lol.

[TheCountOfNYC]

Pain hits like a ton of bricks. Finding out the girl who broke your heart, the girl you still love with all of your heart, has moved on to someone else, it really fucks you up. I've been trying to power through it, I have to with my job and band duties, but even when I'm around my friends and family, I feel so alone. I've started to veer towards my self-destructive tendencies, and my job is the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails. Nothing has been able to fill the void she left, and I see the downward spiral on the horizon.

[Stadler]

Pain hits like a ton of bricks. Finding out the girl who broke your heart, the girl you still love with all of your heart, has moved on to someone else, it really fucks you up. I've been trying to power through it, I have to with my job and band duties, but even when I'm around my friends and family, I feel so alone. I've started to veer towards my self-destructive tendencies, and my job is the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails. Nothing has been able to fill the void she left, and I see the downward spiral on the horizon.

Go talk to someone, please. 

There's nothing I'm going to say that's not going to make me sound like a big(ger) dick, but suffice to say that the spiral is NOT inevitable. It's just not.  Get the help you need to move past this. 

[TAC]

Pain hits like a ton of bricks. Finding out the girl who broke your heart, the girl you still love with all of your heart, has moved on to someone else, it really fucks you up. I've been trying to power through it, I have to with my job and band duties, but even when I'm around my friends and family, I feel so alone. I've started to veer towards my self-destructive tendencies, and my job is the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails. Nothing has been able to fill the void she left, and I see the downward spiral on the horizon.

Go talk to someone, please. 

There's nothing I'm going to say that's not going to make me sound like a big(ger) dick, but suffice to say that the spiral is NOT inevitable. It's just not.  Get the help you need to move past this.

I didn't know how to say it without also sounding like a dick, but you pretty much summed it up.

[wolfking]

Pain hits like a ton of bricks. Finding out the girl who broke your heart, the girl you still love with all of your heart, has moved on to someone else, it really fucks you up. I've been trying to power through it, I have to with my job and band duties, but even when I'm around my friends and family, I feel so alone. I've started to veer towards my self-destructive tendencies, and my job is the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails. Nothing has been able to fill the void she left, and I see the downward spiral on the horizon.

Seems like you're kind of enabling yourself to be like this mate. I'm sorry to say.  You obviously are self aware and no doubt are in a lot of pain, but looking for an easy out in a 'downward spiral' doesn't help you at all.  As Stadler said, go talk to someone.

She obviously doesn't give two fucks about you and has moved on, you have to do the same thing, you just have to.

[WilliamMunny]

Pain hits like a ton of bricks. Finding out the girl who broke your heart, the girl you still love with all of your heart, has moved on to someone else, it really fucks you up. I've been trying to power through it, I have to with my job and band duties, but even when I'm around my friends and family, I feel so alone. I've started to veer towards my self-destructive tendencies, and my job is the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails. Nothing has been able to fill the void she left, and I see the downward spiral on the horizon.

Living well is the best revenge, my friend.

[Harmony]

Pain hits like a ton of bricks. Finding out the girl who broke your heart, the girl you still love with all of your heart, has moved on to someone else, it really fucks you up. I've been trying to power through it, I have to with my job and band duties, but even when I'm around my friends and family, I feel so alone. I've started to veer towards my self-destructive tendencies, and my job is the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails. Nothing has been able to fill the void she left, and I see the downward spiral on the horizon.

Living well is the best revenge, my friend.

This ^^

Look, not one person on this thread hasn't been there.  It feels like a freight train slamming into your chest over and over again.  I get it.  And I'm so sorry you are hurting right now.  It must seem like how you are feeling today will never end.

But it will.  Only if you don't take stupid chances or do something you'll never be able to walk back.

I promise, it will.  One day at a time.  Put the work into YOURSELF.  Time will continue on whether or not you give up or get up.  Six months from now you could be in a place 180 degrees from where you are right now.  But you won't know if you don't work toward it.

And yeah, talking to someone can help a lot.  There is no shame in that either.  Asking for help is a strength.  You've done it here with this post.  Keep doing it.

[wolfking]

Yeah, my first real love cheated on me and absolutely destroyed me.  I was gutted and too thought the world was ending.  I couldn't believe it and I thought I loved this girl so much, I didn't think I'd ever move past it or be able to find someone else. 

You do get past it and now I just look back at all of that and laugh at myself for being such a soft ass bitch about it all.  She can fuck off too, wherever the fuck she is.

[Glasser]

Pain hits like a ton of bricks. Finding out the girl who broke your heart, the girl you still love with all of your heart, has moved on to someone else, it really fucks you up. I've been trying to power through it, I have to with my job and band duties, but even when I'm around my friends and family, I feel so alone. I've started to veer towards my self-destructive tendencies, and my job is the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails. Nothing has been able to fill the void she left, and I see the downward spiral on the horizon.

Posting this here is a positive thing,  it means deep down whether you know it or not you do want to fight through this so you have already taken the first step. Yes, I've been there, its unbearable and nauseating but IT WILL pass, you can't put a time on it but it will. Everyone on this forum are truly kind people and genuinely care. Good music brings good people together and man if you are in that much pain message me and I will be there to listen, if you want to actually speak to me you got it.

[wolfking]

Pain hits like a ton of bricks. Finding out the girl who broke your heart, the girl you still love with all of your heart, has moved on to someone else, it really fucks you up. I've been trying to power through it, I have to with my job and band duties, but even when I'm around my friends and family, I feel so alone. I've started to veer towards my self-destructive tendencies, and my job is the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails. Nothing has been able to fill the void she left, and I see the downward spiral on the horizon.

Posting this here is a positive thing,  it means deep down whether you know it or not you do want to fight through this so you have already taken the first step. Yes, I've been there, its unbearable and nauseating but IT WILL pass, you can't put a time on it but it will. Everyone on this forum are truly kind people and genuinely care. Good music brings good people together and man if you are in that much pain message me and I will be there to listen, if you want to actually speak to me you got it.

Says the man with the Pizza Death avatar! 

[Jamesman42]

Pain hits like a ton of bricks. Finding out the girl who broke your heart, the girl you still love with all of your heart, has moved on to someone else, it really fucks you up. I've been trying to power through it, I have to with my job and band duties, but even when I'm around my friends and family, I feel so alone. I've started to veer towards my self-destructive tendencies, and my job is the only thing keeping me from going completely off the rails. Nothing has been able to fill the void she left, and I see the downward spiral on the horizon.

Find the next good thing and latch onto it. Seek out the good and positive. Time heals. And things can and do get better, though it doesn't seem like it when you are in the darkness. Don't make self-fulfilling prophecies.

I speak from my own experience. You don't have to let the turmoil take you in.

[jingle.boy]

Depression just sucks.  I've been in a really bad place for about a month now (while being off and on for a year and a half), and having trouble finding the will, desire, and motivation to get out of it.  I was just about at a point of being 'good', then shit just comes crashing down... like a two ton heavy thing.

 

[Evermind]

Depression just sucks.  I've been in a really bad place for about a month now (while being off and on for a year and a half), and having trouble finding the will, desire, and motivation to get out of it.  I was just about at a point of being 'good', then shit just comes crashing down... like a two ton heavy thing.

 

[Glasser]

Depression just sucks.  I've been in a really bad place for about a month now (while being off and on for a year and a half), and having trouble finding the will, desire, and motivation to get out of it.  I was just about at a point of being 'good', then shit just comes crashing down... like a two ton heavy thing.

 

Hugs man! 

[ProfessorPeart]

I watch my wife go through this all the time. Wouldn't wish it on anyone.

[Cool Chris]

We're here for you buddy.

[Adami]

Depression just sucks.  I've been in a really bad place for about a month now (while being off and on for a year and a half), and having trouble finding the will, desire, and motivation to get out of it.  I was just about at a point of being 'good', then shit just comes crashing down... like a two ton heavy thing.

 

Bald awesome dude to bald awesome dude, reach out.

[ReaperKK]

I'm really sorry jingle, lots of : going out to you. As Chris said we're here for you.

[King Postwhore]

Durring our vacation my wife felt a lump on her breast. We went in for an ultrasound.   Hoping it's a cyst.

We've had all we can this year already.

[ReaperKK]

Keeping all my fingers crossed too King

[Adami]

Durring our vacation my wife felt a lump on her breast. We went in for an ultrasound.   Hoping it's a cyst.

We've had all we can this year already.

I'm not a praying man but I'm hoping for her. You both deserve only the best life.

[King Postwhore]

Thank you guys. We are staying positive.

[Cool Chris]

Good thing you were able to get it checked out right away.

[Jamesman42]

Praying for you King.


I am feeling so down today. Overwhelmed by everything. I want to shut down and I can't because I have two little kids who love me and need me. I was going to type more but I am too tired.

[wolfking]

Durring our vacation my wife felt a lump on her breast. We went in for an ultrasound.   Hoping it's a cyst.

We've had all we can this year already.

Wishing a positive outcome for you both mate.

[Glasser]

Durring our vacation my wife felt a lump on her breast. We went in for an ultrasound.   Hoping it's a cyst.

We've had all we can this year already.

Much love and positive vibes to you both! 

[King Postwhore]

Thank you. We are trying to be positive. I'm glad my wife is proactive.  We went through lymphoma with me when I was 30 for 2 years. I hope my strong wife doesn't have to go through it.

[Jamesman42]

I am so glad you survived, dude.

[King Postwhore]

The stories I could tell you. I fought to stay positive.   The support from family and friends is something I'll never forget. 

[Jamesman42]

Don't worry, 2010 is the shittiest year in the history of the world.

About 10 years off.

(I don't know why I was going back and reading old posts, but here we are)