Somebody came up with an acronym for ego - edging God out and I think it's pretty apt as most of the troubles I've had seem to stem from ego. I've avoided most "men's night outs" at church for this reason and I've avoided approaching women there unless I feel I can offer something for this exact reason. If I wanted any further proof that I was on the wrong path then the night I decided to go to a party telling myself although difficult I would be gaining social skills, I had a major altercation on the way home.
And I've noticed now that lots of people are getting engaged and married or pregnant and the whole thing is turning into an ego-hell with emails, announcements, Facebook, chatter, prayer requests, public displays of affection.
I'm trying to find something anti-intuitive to cut this out at source (not Source) and the best advice I can currently find is the references to humility in the gospels that too many christians seem to overlook and the fine words of Lao Tzu 500 years before.
I'm also going to look at works from the Islamic world when it was enlighted, e.g. Rumi, to consolidate this.