I met my wife via online dating about 10 years ago. We both wish we had a better story regarding how we met, but it is what it is. I know a ton of couples that met the same way, I doubt I'm unique in that regard.
We've now been married for 6.5 years and have 2 children. She still doesn't enjoy DT at all, aside from kinda being ok with The Spirit Carries On. Our musical tastes are very different, which isn't a big deal to me and we've actually turned each other onto stuff we wouldn't otherwise have listened to. Maybe my kids will eventually enjoy DT on some level
One word of advice would be not to overdo it on the first date. You don't want to get stuck doing dinner with someone that you clearly have no chemistry with. You can always turn the coffee or drinks date into dinner if things are going well.
I didn't write this post, but - except for the "having 2 children" (we brought our own into the relationship) - I could have. We ended up going to this little restaurant/bar, and sat down, the waiter brought waters and we sat and talked for almost two and a half hours and never ordered a thing. Not even a drink. As we were walking out, the owner came out and asked if everything was ok. I'm about as smooth as an unpaved road with the ladies, but I was on point and said "everything was perfect; that was our first date and we just got lost in talking". We've been together ever since.
Postscript: Our first Christmas together, I went to the restaurant and gave one of the waiters $20 for two of their water glasses. We still have them.
That is awesome, good for you guys! We went to a Starbucks after 3 or so back and forth emails on Match and sat outside for hours talking. I was too stupid to suggest going to dinner when it was obviously going very well. A fact my wife likes to point out every now and again. Honestly, I didn't want to push my luck after what was clearly a good first date.
A few days later, we sat outside at a restaurant and ended up staying there well past when they closed (owner didn't care).