The size of the bed makes no difference with us. We end up gravitating toward one another regardless of the space between. We've tried a king several times and that doesn't seem to make a difference. The temperature fluctuation is a huge contributor to the shitty sleeps. My girlfriend is always freezing, and I'll sleep perfectly if I leave the AC at 60 all night. I constantly wake up drenched in sweat because she runs so hot when she sleeps.
My ex-wife and I started to sleep apart from each other for obvious reasons. I slept better on the couch because she is an obnoxiously loud snorer, and I'm a light sleeper.
My ex-wife and I started to sleep apart from each other for obvious reasons. I slept better on the couch because she is an obnoxiously loud snorer, and I'm a light sleeper.
I'd sleep on a couch every night if I could. I love sleeping on couches. There's a sweet spot where the ass cushions meet the back cushions that I can sink into, and I won't move a muscle until my alarm goes off, or the cat walks on my face.
PS - some people including my husband might say that it seems so wrong to sleep separate that we may as well divorce but I say lots of the best relationships happen between people who don't even live together, let alone sleep in the same bed. Why should it be required just because of a ceremony? It wasn't a "sleep in the same bed" ceremony, it was a "for better or for worse" ceremony. This is the solution for weathering the "worse" part when it comes to sleep.
And seriously, both people are unconscious during this time so who cares where they're located in relation to one another as long as they're in the same home?
The size of the bed makes no difference with us. We end up gravitating toward one another regardless of the space between. We've tried a king several times and that doesn't seem to make a difference. The temperature fluctuation is a huge contributor to the shitty sleeps. My girlfriend is always freezing, and I'll sleep perfectly if I leave the AC at 60 all night. I constantly wake up drenched in sweat because she runs so hot when she sleeps.
Why not have seperate bedrooms ?
If one person has insomnia and has to get up and walk around - or is sick and has to get up to be sick a lot - why should the other person not sleep either ?
^^ I used to do that when I had my own place. Sometimes it's easier and more comfortable to just roll over and sleep where you are.
My grandparents, who were happily married for many years, had separate beds in the same bedroom. I don't think it's all that uncommon.
I am 51 and am working on 21 years of marriage. I can't imagine the day when I don't sleep in the same bed as my wife. Our king size bed is huge and I only snore when I drink too much.(so I'm told) Plus my wife sleeps like crap when I'm not in the bed with her. Imagine that...Man, I was fixing to ask if there was anybody in this entire forum that actually shares a bed with their SO. Way to be the outcast, dude.
As the far the hot cold thing goes I often throw an extra blanket on her when shes cold that doesn't touch me.Or if shes hot she flips the blanket off her into the middle of the bed. Never an issue for us.
To each his own but I hope I never see the day I'm in a separate bed than my wife.
I am 51 and am working on 21 years of marriage. I can't imagine the day when I don't sleep in the same bed as my wife. Our king size bed is huge and I only snore when I drink too much.(so I'm told) Plus my wife sleeps like crap when I'm not in the bed with her. Imagine that...Man, I was fixing to ask if there was anybody in this entire forum that actually shares a bed with their SO. Way to be the outcast, dude.
As the far the hot cold thing goes I often throw an extra blanket on her when shes cold that doesn't touch me.Or if shes hot she flips the blanket off her into the middle of the bed. Never an issue for us.
To each his own but I hope I never see the day I'm in a separate bed than my wife.
I've only ever had the bed to myself.
I can't imagine sharing.But Kotowboy - nobody will ever want you anyway!!
I share a twin bed with my girlfriend. I love being next to her and if I can have it my way, I will never sleep in a bed without her again.
Where the hell do you get married out of that? Try meeting a girl first silly. :lol
I'm nothing.. :hug: you're one of the members i look forward to seeing here. You are valued and appreciated.
but when will you sex?
but when will you sex?
I'm only a manipulator. A broler5if you will.
Broker dammit. Lol.
You need the special dictionary that translates from kinginese.but when will you sex?
I'm only a manipulator. A broler5if you will.
I tried looking up that word but the dictionary laughed at me.
I share a twin bed with my girlfriend. I love being next to her and if I can have it my way, I will never sleep in a bed without her again.
A twin bed for two people? If so, how?
LOL i was meaning at the OP.
If you sleep in separate beds, WHEN WAS SEX?
I don't think I've ever had sex right before going to sleep. Sex wakes me right up. So not only is the there the sweaty, grimy feeling, but now I can't even get to sleep.
You need the special dictionary that translates from kinginese.but when will you sex?
I'm only a manipulator. A broler5if you will.
I tried looking up that word but the dictionary laughed at me.
You guys are silly, I would be rich by now if I had a dictionary out.
You guys are silly, I would be rich by now if I had a dictionary out.
I can help you with the editing. I only want a little notoriety, like ahand jobback rub.
You guys are silly, I would be rich by now if I had a dictionary out.
I can help you with the editing. I only want a little notoriety, like ahand jobback rub.
Suddenly I have Blink 182 going through my head.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1fECcM0cS4
Which makes me ask another question - of all the people having regular sex, how many actually have it at night time after going to bed?
Which makes me ask another question - of all the people having regular sex, how many actually have it at night time after going to bed?
I have never, ever had that be the way things work in my relationship. Bed is for sleep. Not only would it be detrimental to falling asleep but it would make me dirty and sweaty and gross and would mess up the sheets and then I'd have to lay in that all night...? No way. Not on your life.
Which makes me ask another question - of all the people having regular sex, how many actually have it at night time after going to bed?
I have never, ever had that be the way things work in my relationship. Bed is for sleep. Not only would it be detrimental to falling asleep but it would make me dirty and sweaty and gross and would mess up the sheets and then I'd have to lay in that all night...? No way. Not on your life.
Rarely. We go to bed because one of us is falling asleep. We're not the type of couple who'll climb into bed and lay there awake for an hour or more watching TV or reading. As soon as we lay down, one of us is out within five minutes of hitting the sheets. I hate having sex super late at night. I'm usually tired and uninterested. If anything, we'll have sex randomly at like 4:00am because one of us gets horned up and starts molesting the other.
Yeah, I can't imagine not sharing a bed with my wife. Although, like most everyone else, she's easily cold and I roast like crazy.
Yeah, I can't imagine not sharing a bed with my wife. Although, like most everyone else, she's easily cold and I roast like crazy.
Why are women so cold blooded? My ex was always cold too and I am always hot.
Yeah, I can't imagine not sharing a bed with my wife. Although, like most everyone else, she's easily cold and I roast like crazy.
Why are women so cold blooded? My ex was always cold too and I am always hot.
Yeah, I can't imagine not sharing a bed with my wife. Although, like most everyone else, she's easily cold and I roast like crazy.
Why are women so cold blooded? My ex was always cold too and I am always hot.
My wife is going through "The Change" right now. Cold, Hot, Hot Cold, Cold, Cold, Hot........
My wife is going through "The Change" right now. Cold, Hot, Hot Cold, Cold, Cold, Hot........
My wife is going through "The Change" right now. Cold, Hot, Hot Cold, Cold, Cold, Hot........
Light to dark
dark to light
light to dark
dark to light
My wife is going through "The Change" right now. Cold, Hot, Hot Cold, Cold, Cold, Hot........
Light to dark
dark to light
light to dark
dark to light
I wish it was that poetic.
I really don't wanna talk about my current situation but.. going by my situation 2 years ago and what not.. Ideally I'd prefer to sleep separate on nights when I have to be up for work the next morning, and together on my off nights.
Mrs. NoseHair and I don't have separate beds, but our bed is so big we each sleep in our own zip code :PWe have a king sized (but not the California king - dare to dream).
Seriously, though, it's a "California King" sized bed, so it's as wide as 2.5 queen beds and it's the most glorious thing ever because the both of us can stretch out in any direction we want and rarely do we disturb each other during the night. Our dogs sleep with us too and the big bed makes that so much more comfortable.
When we got married we had a queen-sized bed. But as we've aged both of us have become lighter and lighter sleepers. The littlest things can wake either of us up. Getting the huge bed was part of a strategy to improve sleep and it worked, big time.
Always an outcast....hunted like an animal...hated despised...I am 51 and am working on 21 years of marriage. I can't imagine the day when I don't sleep in the same bed as my wife. Our king size bed is huge and I only snore when I drink too much.(so I'm told) Plus my wife sleeps like crap when I'm not in the bed with her. Imagine that...Man, I was fixing to ask if there was anybody in this entire forum that actually shares a bed with their SO. Way to be the outcast, dude.
As the far the hot cold thing goes I often throw an extra blanket on her when shes cold that doesn't touch me.Or if shes hot she flips the blanket off her into the middle of the bed. Never an issue for us.
To each his own but I hope I never see the day I'm in a separate bed than my wife.
I'm with Tick on this one.
Honestly, I couldn't imagine being in a relationship and not sleep in the same bed as my partner. That's a huge part for me - the intimacy and the cuddling (and more often than not, hot hot sexin' time) just makes me sleep that much better.
Honestly, I couldn't imagine being in a relationship and not sleep in the same bed as my partner. That's a huge part for me - the intimacy and the cuddling (and more often than not, hot hot sexin' time) just makes me sleep that much better.
This. To me it's one of the great pleasures of being in a relationship. Sleeping next to a warm body <3
Back to the Lucy & 'Ricky' picture: growing up and watching their show and Dick Van Dyke reruns, for years I thought my parents and all of my aunts and uncles were somewhat poor..........because none of them had two beds.lol