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General => General Discussion => Topic started by: Chino on August 15, 2013, 06:51:42 AM
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Hello DTF. I come to you today looking for similar stories and perhaps a little insight.
Let's begin.
So there is this app on mobile devices called Tinder (I'm sure at least one person on here has used it). It's basically a match making app that finds members of the opposite sex in your area based on your GPS position. Users have an incredibly brief profile, their age, five pictures, and how many miles they are from you. The app doesn't find matches for you, it just shows you everyone. How it works is, you are not able to chat with anyone initially. The profiles come up at random and you basically select interested or not interested. If I happen to click interested on someone, and they do the same for me, the app will then automatically open up our chat privileges to each other.
Well I got on this app with no serious intentions of it at all. I mainly just wanted to see what kind of cute girls (maybe any that I knew) were on it. I ended up getting about a dozen matches in the first three days, and had some brief conversations with a few of them... except for one girl. Her and I have been texting (we exchanged numbers, no longer communicating through the app) non-stop for the last week now. I got her to start watching Breaking Bad and we've been watching the episodes at the same time while talking back and forth about them.
We have arranged to meet up tonight at a bar that's at a nice midpoint between our towns. I know 100% that it's not a catfish, and she seems awesome as hell.. but I've never been on a date with someone I've met like this. I guess I could describe my feelings as a little nervous, excited, and apprehensive at the same time.
Has anyone had experience with something like this in a similar situation? Please discuss.
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Not personally...but, my brother and his now wife met through an online service and have been married for four years and have two kids. And, my sister in law (who has endured a horrible divorce because her x is a huge douche nozzle who's lucky I don't have the distemper I had ten years ago...sorry) used an online service and has met a very nice guy who she really likes.
Sounds neat actually. Having that groundwork of the texting back and forth should make it a bit more relaxed. Good luck!
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Mrs. P and I met on a blind-date. I'd never even seen her or spoken with her before...although a good friend, who I trusted completely, had screened her for me.
Good luck! It does sound like fun.
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Now I know that OK cupid is fairly different than Tinder, but I have gone out with quite a few people from that site and even though there's more information to go on with Ok Cupid, I was still technically meeting complete strangers. Anyone can fake a profile, but its worked out really well. And also, none of them really looked like their profile pics, so it might as well have been a blind date anyway.
My only thing was that I was extremely selective and would make sure to message with someone for probably 2-3 weeks and then do something really simple like coffee. Its a crowded public place and provided a stepping stone to something more and at the same time was something easy to walk away from if things didn't jive.
and for the record, I had more dating success with OK Cupid than I ever have in real life.
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Bosk, AndyDT has hacked into Chino's account. :lol :lol
Like Podaar, Mrs.jingle and I met on a blind date, with a group of mutual friends/co-workers. This was long before smartphones and apps like this. I read an article about an app like this a few months ago. Seemed like a cool idea. Bottom line, if you 'connect' with someone, it doesn't really matter HOW that connection was made. Enjoy it dude.
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Now I know that OK cupid is fairly different than Tinder, but I have gone out with quite a few people from that site and even though there's more information to go on with Ok Cupid, I was still technically meeting complete strangers. Anyone can fake a profile, but its worked out really well. And also, none of them really looked like their profile pics, so it might as well have been a blind date anyway.
My only thing was that I was extremely selective and would make sure to message with someone for probably 2-3 weeks and then do something really simple like coffee. Its a crowded public place and provided a stepping stone to something more and at the same time was something easy to walk away from if things didn't jive.
and for the record, I had more dating success with OK Cupid than I ever have in real life.
We text pics back and forth all the time. She's cute as a button. I figured a week of texting was enough to actually meet. We've sent almost 3000 messages back and forth (wow, that just sank in). :lol
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Bosk, AndyDT has hacked into Chino's account. :lol :lol
:lol :lol
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Bosk, AndyDT has hacked into Chino's account. :lol :lol
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Chino, my recommendation for getting more hits is to type in the "location" field: "Right behind you. Don't cry out. Don't turn around. Everything will be just fine."
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i've never met anybody that way, but I don't think it's weird at all. It's no different than going out with someone you met online or at a bar or something. I mean, how much can you really know about someone until you spend time with them?
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Bosk, AndyDT has hacked into Chino's account. :lol :lol
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Chino, my recommendation for getting more hits is to type in the "location" field: "Right behind you. Don't cry out. Don't turn around. Everything will be just fine."
If it wasn't based on GPS, that'd be perfect :rollin
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Sounds like you have something good going, just enjoy it and try not to worry yourself too much.
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I
stalked rode the same commuter train with my wife for about 6 months before I finally worked up the nerve to strike up a conversation with her. I asked her out on a date the first time I spoke to her. Hard to believe that was 27 years ago :coolio
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I stalked rode the same commuter train with my wife for about 6 months before I finally worked up the nerve to strike up a conversation with her. I asked her out on a date the first time I spoke to her. Hard to believe that was 27 years ago :coolio
:hefdaddy
Also, that app seems amazing. 3000 texts btw? Incredible feat.
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How do you guys think I should handle payment? I didn't necessarily ask her out other than saying "want to meet up?". It was her idea we do the bar. Should I still pay for everything?
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How do you guys think I should handle payment? I didn't necessarily ask her out other than saying "want to meet up?". It was her idea we do the bar. Should I still pay for everything?
Make the offer to, but if she insists on paying, then just let her.
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How do you guys think I should handle payment? I didn't necessarily ask her out other than saying "want to meet up?". It was her idea we do the bar. Should I still pay for everything?
Make the offer to, but if she insists on paying, then just let her.
This is what I would do but you may need to adjust on the fly. Use your feeling Luke!
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How do you guys think I should handle payment? I didn't necessarily ask her out other than saying "want to meet up?". It was her idea we do the bar. Should I still pay for everything?
Just hope she doesn't ask for payment upfront. :D
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How do you guys think I should handle payment? I didn't necessarily ask her out other than saying "want to meet up?". It was her idea we do the bar. Should I still pay for everything?
Always pay for everything on the first date.
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How do you guys think I should handle payment? I didn't necessarily ask her out other than saying "want to meet up?". It was her idea we do the bar. Should I still pay for everything?
Absolutely not!
1st base should be free
2nd base, $2
3rd base, $14
then steal home.
Above all else, nothing more than $20 for a hummer.
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I have always been VERY rigid in that a relationship should be a commitment from both sides, including financially. That said I think it's just good form for to pay on the first date. Smooths things along and lays a good groundwork.
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Definitely make the move to pay the bill on a first date. If she offers to pay half, let her.
I met my wife online. We talked on the phone for a couple months before we were finally able to meet. My sister met her husband by being set up by a friend. They emailed for a few weeks before finally meeting.
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How do you guys think I should handle payment? I didn't necessarily ask her out other than saying "want to meet up?". It was her idea we do the bar. Should I still pay for everything?
Always pay for everything on the first date.
no. definitely not.
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That reminds me, I owe jingleboy 20 bucks.
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I've always paid on the first date. But that's just me.
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That reminds me, I owe jingleboy 20 bucks.
:lol
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That reminds me, I owe jingleboy 20 bucks.
He is an easy lay.
Chino, you'll never have a change to let anything grow, (This is truly a dual meaning) unless you go out. You'll never have a chance unless you go for it.
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That reminds me, I owe jingleboy 20 bucks.
:lol
I "met" my wife by talking on the phone while my college roommate was interacting with her best friend on a chat room. We talked for about a week before deciding to meet, then started dating, and now here we are, in debt up to our eyeballs.
It can happen to you too, Chino!
I would avoid talking about films at all costs.
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That reminds me, I owe jingleboy 20 bucks.
Told you... it was pro bono.
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I would make you nominate that as a POTY candidate. But then I'd owe you another $20.
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How 'bout I just sig it instead?
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status report from bathroom. Everything is going awesome. Go me!
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status report from bathroom. Everything is going awesome. Go me!
Motherfucker!!! It IS AndyDT
j/k Chino. Go you!!
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status report from bathroom. Everything is going awesome. Go me!
I just pictured the last scene from 'Boogie Nights' where Mark Wahlberg was looking into the mirror psyching himself up
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status report from bathroom. Everything is going awesome. Go me!
Eh. One man's "awesome" is another man's "OMG, I better go to the bathroom and post on DTF."
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status report from bathroom. Everything is going awesome. Go me!
Eh. One man's "awesome" is another man's "OMG, I better go to the bathroom and post on DTF."
:lol
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Well that night couldn't have gone any better. Three straight hours of talking with lots of laughter and great eye contact. No phones out the entire time (except when I was at the urinal). Introductions were a little weird, we shook hands and introduced ourselves by name even though we were already aware of each other, but whatever. I even picked up the tab, all seventeen dollars of it lol. She had one drink and all I had was a beer and a whiskey on the rocks. I was actually happy it was a sober hangout kind of evening. However, there is a pretty serious/concerning kicker....
She's never seen Avatar
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However, there is a pretty serious/concerning kicker....
She's never seen Avatar
It sounds to me like she's absolutely perfect for you. :lol ;)
Glad to hear it went well! :tup
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Next week's thread: "How do I break up with a girl who didn't like Avatar?"
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Good on you, man. I met up with one girl from an online dating site in person (We went to the same university, imagine that). Never panned out into a relationship, but we're still pretty solid friends. It's cool, because neither of us knows anyone else in our social circle, so it's kind of like having a mystery stranger you can talk about literally anything with because none of it will ever come back to you.
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Sweet bro, sounds like it went well. As to the Avatar thing, people just have different taste, some have good taste, and some have Avatar fishtanks.
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I just pictured the last scene from 'Boogie Nights' where Mark Wahlberg was looking into the mirror psyching himself up
Funny, I was thinking Stuart Smalley.
:tup to Chino and the awesome evening.
wever, there is a pretty serious/concerning kicker....
She's never seen Avatar
Sounds like an opportunity.
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That sounds awesome Chino, glad it went well, keep us posted if you're going to meet up again.
There is always something exciting about meeting someone new for the first time. I remember going to Busch Gardens with a friend of a friend, it was supposed to be a group trip but everyone bailed but this girl still wanted to go and I did too. Had an awkward for 10 minute car ride then had an awesome day. Dated for 3 years but still remain friends.
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Next week's thread: "How do I break up with a girl who didn't like Avatar?"
I really hope not.
wever, there is a pretty serious/concerning kicker....
She's never seen Avatar
Sounds like an opportunity.
Already in the works :tup
Sweet bro, sounds like it went well. As to the Avatar thing, people just have different taste, some have good taste, and some have Avatar fishtanks.
:lol :lol
It's cool, because neither of us knows anyone else in our social circle, so it's kind of like having a mystery stranger you can talk about literally anything with because none of it will ever come back to you.
So much this. My last girlfriend of 16 months was never brought into my social circle, and it was fantastic.
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Another funny little tidbit from last night... At one point we were talking about music and what concerts we've been to recently. She said something like "I love all kinds of music. I could sit and listen to 99.99% of all music", I replied "Challenge accepted. I bet I have your .01%". Of course I was referring to Dream Theater.
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If you do not like Avatar, we are not a match.
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Another funny little tidbit from last night... At one point we were talking about music and what concerts we've been to recently. She said something like "I love all kinds of music. I could sit and listen to 99.99% of all music", I replied "Challenge accepted. I bet I have your .01%". Of course I was referring to Dream Theater.
:rollin
Now the big question, if you play her SDOIT, and she loves it, what then?
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Another funny little tidbit from last night... At one point we were talking about music and what concerts we've been to recently. She said something like "I love all kinds of music. I could sit and listen to 99.99% of all music", I replied "Challenge accepted. I bet I have your .01%". Of course I was referring to Dream Theater.
:rollin
Now the big question, if you play her SDOIT, and she loves it, what then?
I hope to hell that she doesn't find this place :rollin :rollin :rollin
If you do not like Avatar, we are not a match.
Obviously.
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Another funny little tidbit from last night... At one point we were talking about music and what concerts we've been to recently. She said something like "I love all kinds of music. I could sit and listen to 99.99% of all music", I replied "Challenge accepted. I bet I have your .01%". Of course I was referring to Dream Theater.
Red flag right there. Make her listen to Immortal until she admits that this line is BS every single time someone says it.
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Another funny little tidbit from last night... At one point we were talking about music and what concerts we've been to recently. She said something like "I love all kinds of music. I could sit and listen to 99.99% of all music", I replied "Challenge accepted. I bet I have your .01%". Of course I was referring to Dream Theater.
:rollin
Now the big question, if you play her SDOIT, and she loves it, what then?
I hope to hell that she doesn't find this place :rollin :rollin :rollin
I know a certain P/R thread I bet she'd love to join in. :)
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I hope to hell that she doesn't find this place :rollin :rollin :rollin
If things progress further, you will no longer be able to keep DTF a secret from her. Lol.
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Another funny little tidbit from last night... At one point we were talking about music and what concerts we've been to recently. She said something like "I love all kinds of music. I could sit and listen to 99.99% of all music", I replied "Challenge accepted. I bet I have your .01%". Of course I was referring to Dream Theater.
:rollin
Now the big question, if you play her SDOIT, and she loves it, what then?
I hope to hell that she doesn't find this place :rollin :rollin :rollin
I know a certain P/R thread I bet she'd love to join in. :)
My point exactly :lol
I hope to hell that she doesn't find this place :rollin :rollin :rollin
If things progress further, you will no longer be able to keep DTF a secret from her. Lol.
Fuck that. I went well over a year with my last g/f without her finding out. The only way she's finding this place is if she for some reason feels compelled to look for a Dream Theater message board, or she gets access to my laptop and goes through my internet history.
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If you get access to Chino's laptop and go through his internet history, we are not a match.
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If I get access to Chino's laptop and go through his internet history, and the most incriminating thing he has is DTF, we are not a match.
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:lol :lol Oh you guys.
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If I get access to Chino's laptop and go through his internet history, I will need someone to pay for retina replacement surgery.
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Lightweights.
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:rollin
This thread is approaching epic...
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If I get access to Chino's laptop and go through his internet history, I will need someone to pay for retina replacement surgery.
Get on my level, Bosk.
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If she finds the page and decides to break things off with you, it's not the end of the world. However, if she finds it and doesn't...
(https://tjen-folket.no/tmp_images/1029-770.jpg)
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If you ever get serious, remove all your posts on DTF.
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Another funny little tidbit from last night... At one point we were talking about music and what concerts we've been to recently. She said something like "I love all kinds of music. I could sit and listen to 99.99% of all music", I replied "Challenge accepted. I bet I have your .01%". Of course I was referring to Dream Theater.
Red flag right there. Make her listen to Immortal until she admits that this line is BS every single time someone says it.
:rollin
Better yet, play her some Wormrot
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If you ever get serious, remove all your posts on DTF.
On the flipside, if you find you're not a match, show her this place and insist that your handle is AndyDT.
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So... pictures?
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So... pictures?
Yeah.... I'm not going to do that.
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That's probably for the best.
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Agreed. You're probably giving us way too much info in this thread to begin with, lol.
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That's probably for the best.
Agreed. You're probably giving us way too much info in this thread to begin with, lol.
Agreed.
So... pictures?
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That's probably for the best.
Agreed. You're probably giving us way too much info in this thread to begin with, lol.
Agreed.
So... pictures?
How have I possibly given out way too much info?
No pictures.
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:corn
C'mon man, need something to give my sad ass life a smidgen of excitement...
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Cup size, please sir?
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Shoe size?
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C'mon man, need something to give my sad ass life a smidgen of excitement...
That'll be an order of hell no.
Cup size, please sir?
A side of ask your mama.
Shoe size?
And one large cup of negro please.
(I just watched Barber Shop)
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Cup size, please sir?
A side of ask your mama.
That's pretty rude, since I'm sure that, like TioJorge, we're ALL wondering whether she ordered a tall, grande, or venti.
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Cup size, please sir?
A side of ask your mama.
That's pretty rude, since I'm sure that, like TioJorge, we're ALL wondering whether she ordered a tall, grande, or venti.
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dear mother of god this thread
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This is true, but in all actuality, I wanted to know her jock cup size. I like a man with a woman with a bulge.
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I'll settle for her hat size. On your next date, ask to measure her head with a measuring tape you happen to have in your pocket. I guarantee it won't be weird or awkward.
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:lol at this thread. DTFers will never be free. No relationships cause they'll discover your posts about them. No public office because you know someone's going to discover your sick obsession with a mediocre prog metal band. Basically DTFers are going to be doomed to perish together. :metal
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On a serious note though: one should not be ashamed of ones online activity, I know I'm not, nothing to hide.
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Mentlegen, please. We've already established that AndyDT hacked into Chino's account. As such, we must deduce that there's only one size he inquired about last night....
Ring.
P.S. And I don't mean 'cock'
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I don't see what the big deal is. I was just curious as to what kind of picks she uses, and made a typo.
(https://heibei-shenglun-musical-instrument.tradenote.net/images/users/000/442/375/743514.jpg)
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On a serious note though: one should not be ashamed of ones online activity, I know I'm not, nothing to hide.
I'm not. I posted about it here because I talk with you guys sometimes more often than my in-life friends. I feel more comfortable posting it here than discussing it with some of my friends.
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That's great then, but make sure it's stalk-proof. By that I mean, don't post anything here that you wouldn't want her seeing. Asking advice and telling people what you have already told does in no way make things weird though, it'd be strange if you didn't ask/tell anyone about this.
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This thread is so epic :rollin And Chino, good luck man :lol :tup
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bosk1, you can look at my hard drive any time. :eyebrows: Beside, I have speedo pictures for you waiting on hard drive :H. H is for horny.
Chino. I would love for her to see this thread in the future. :lol
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bosk1, you can look at my hard drive any time. :eyebrows: Beside, I have speedo pictures for you waiting on hard drive :H. H is for horny.
In your case, I always thought H was for Hops.
Chino. I would love for her to see this thread in the future. :lol
In that case....
(https://i726.photobucket.com/albums/ww265/jingle-boy/DTF%20items/Chino-swellguy_zpsbc72c69c.jpg)
(https://i726.photobucket.com/albums/ww265/jingle-boy/DTF%20items/Chino-notcreepy_zpsf07fc548.jpg)
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:lol
Hops hake me horny Chad. :lol The wife has two different strands growing in a garden. That's how you do it Chino. You get her to love what you love. Prog rock and beer and westerns and Sci-Fi.
Pm me for tips. 1 dollar per pm. :biggrin:
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I love all of you. King, that goes without saying. Jingle, you made me choke on my beer at the bar. Thanks for the unwanted attention. But hey, it's the thought and resulting laugh that counts :lol :lol
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Since it's a love fest, do you remember this?
(https://i73.photobucket.com/albums/i238/hefdaddy42/DTF/chino.jpg)
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:lol :rollin what is that from??
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I made it a few years ago when you typed the sentence in the caption.
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My first wife was a blind date, well, half blind, she saw me but I didn't see her. I've missed out on the whole online dating thing, seeing I've been pretty much attached since the advent of the internet. It does sound like fun though! I'd be all over it Chino! Worse case is the date sux and you don't have a repeat. Life's too short :hat
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Has this relationship blossomed Chino?
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Have you made contact with the pooper yet?
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Have you made contact with the pooper yet?
I thought that's what I asked? :lol
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Have you made contact with the pooper yet?
I thought that's what I asked? :lol
I didn't want Chino to analyze your statement and miss the obvious.
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Man, you guys.
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My first wife was a blind date, well, half blind, she saw me but I didn't see her. I've missed out on the whole online dating thing, seeing I've been pretty much attached since the advent of the internet. It does sound like fun though! I'd be all over it Chino! Worse case is the date sux and you don't have a repeat. Life's too short :hat
My first wife was half blind too. Shame, really. One day she wandered out into a busy street...
Yeah...so...how's it going, Chino?
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Either it's going well, or Chino might be half blind at this point.
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Update because Nick demanded it. I have stopped talking to this lady. Pretty shitty how it went down actually. We were literally mid conversation last Thursday and then she just stopped texting. I sent another text a few hours later, and again nothing. Thirty hours had then gone by and I decided to send another one. I think it said something like "So I guess we're done talking now :/ Well, whatever the reason, no hard feelings. I enjoyed meeting you. Have fun catching up on Breaking Bad and good luck this semester". ... To that, still no response.
At this point I am completely baffled, and pretty irritated. I tried to shake it off and made it about four days before it really got under my skin. I like to know if I've fucked up. That way I can correct my actions in the future. Two nights ago, I finally sent something along the lines of "Hey. I told myself I wasn't going to send a follow up text, but I need to. Can you please give a reason why you just randomly stopped texting. You can even lie to me, I won't know the difference. I try to be a decent person, respectful, level-headed and not an asshole, so it worries me when someone I am texting on a daily basis for weeks just suddenly disappears without any indication as to why". The rest of the conversation went as follows...
Girl : "Hey. I started talking to you literally like a day after I started pursuing a guy at work. I don't like saying goodbye or confrontation, so I just stopped texting"
Me : "So is this the official goodbye then?"
Girl : "Yeah. But it was really great meeting you and talking to you these last couple weeks"
Me : *Deletes conversation*
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Yikes, that's rough. The really odd thing isn't that she stopped texting, but mainly that is was actually mid-conversation. Better luck on the next one.
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Update because Nick demanded it. I have stopped talking to this lady. Pretty shitty how it went down actually. We were literally mid conversation last Thursday and then she just stopped texting. I sent another text a few hours later, and again nothing. Thirty hours had then gone by and I decided to send another one. I think it said something like "So I guess we're done talking now :/ Well, whatever the reason, no hard feelings. I enjoyed meeting you. Have fun catching up on Breaking Bad and good luck this semester". ... To that, still no response.
At this point I am completely baffled, and pretty irritated. I tried to shake it off and made it about four days before it really got under my skin. I like to know if I've fucked up. That way I can correct my actions in the future. Two nights ago, I finally sent something along the lines of "Hey. I told myself I wasn't going to send a follow up text, but I need to. Can you please give a reason why you just randomly stopped texting. You can even lie to me, I won't know the difference. I try to be a decent person, respectful, level-headed and not an asshole, so it worries me when someone I am texting on a daily basis for weeks just suddenly disappears without any indication as to why". The rest of the conversation went as follows...
Girl : "Hey. I started talking to you literally like a day after I started pursuing a guy at work. I don't like saying goodbye or confrontation, so I just stopped texting"
Me : "So is this the official goodbye then?"
Girl : "Yeah. But it was really great meeting you and talking to you these last couple weeks"
Me : *Deletes conversation*
Wow. I'm bummed for you. I'll say this not trying to be all 'cool' or whatever......but I am so glad to be married and not have to go through that type of thing any longer. It's tough. I really don't think I could do the dating/girlfriend thing again.
I'm wishing you a quick turn around and success finding that 'special someone'. Until then.....Nick will comfort you.
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That sucks. It's a small saving grace now, but be glad that she showed how inconsiderate she is now rather than later when you were in much deeper.
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But...you still didn't answer Nick's question.
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If he made contact with the pooper, it's because she shat in his cereal.
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Sorry that didn't work out well for you. I'm curious to know what the conversation was about when she decided to cut it off.
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Sorry that didn't work out well for you. I'm curious to know what the conversation was about when she decided to cut it off.
That cool website I spend a lot of time checking ::)
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Sorry that didn't work out well for you. I'm curious to know what the conversation was about when she decided to cut it off.
We were just talking about how our days were going and she was telling me about this bitch of a patient that just came into the hospital. She sent like three messages (rant) in a row and that was the end of it.
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What a bizarre place to leave things...
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Update because Nick demanded it. I have stopped talking to this lady. Pretty shitty how it went down actually. We were literally mid conversation last Thursday and then she just stopped texting. I sent another text a few hours later, and again nothing. Thirty hours had then gone by and I decided to send another one. I think it said something like "So I guess we're done talking now :/ Well, whatever the reason, no hard feelings. I enjoyed meeting you. Have fun catching up on Breaking Bad and good luck this semester". ... To that, still no response.
At this point I am completely baffled, and pretty irritated. I tried to shake it off and made it about four days before it really got under my skin. I like to know if I've fucked up. That way I can correct my actions in the future. Two nights ago, I finally sent something along the lines of "Hey. I told myself I wasn't going to send a follow up text, but I need to. Can you please give a reason why you just randomly stopped texting. You can even lie to me, I won't know the difference. I try to be a decent person, respectful, level-headed and not an asshole, so it worries me when someone I am texting on a daily basis for weeks just suddenly disappears without any indication as to why". The rest of the conversation went as follows...
Girl : "Hey. I started talking to you literally like a day after I started pursuing a guy at work. I don't like saying goodbye or confrontation, so I just stopped texting"
Me : "So is this the official goodbye then?"
Girl : "Yeah. But it was really great meeting you and talking to you these last couple weeks"
Me : *Deletes conversation*
Damn, that sucks that it ended like that in that particular manner. It just feels like there's no proper way to react to this in a good manner that makes both of you look good. I was in a similar situation like this and I think I handled it badly though if the other person would have reached out to me in a long and meaningful conversation, I could have moved on very easily, no harm and no foul, but what happened, happened.
So, in the end, I guess there is no way to walk out of this in a winning position, but we just got to keep going and wish them well. Gl man.
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Yeah... that blows. Some peeps are just inconsiderate. Moving right along Bro! Don't give her anymore of your attention or thoughts.
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Had a girl do that to me freshmen year of college. Hung out for a few weeks, she borrowed a dvd, and then suddenly, boom, she stops texting me, messaging me, whatever. When I saw her on campus, she wouldn't make eye contact or say anything when I said "hi". Never got that dvd back.
I don't get people who do that. People like closure. You don't just leave them hanging. You want to stop knowing them, fine, but at least tell them. That's worse than rejecting them imo.
As for blind dates, fuck'em. I can't stand them. Can't tell you how many times friends have tried to set me up with their friends who are just... awkward. That's the nicest way I can put it without coming off as a "I'm too good for these girls" douchebag. :lol Let me just say that sometimes, you can easily see the reasons why a person's still single.
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Update because Nick demanded it. I have stopped talking to this lady. Pretty shitty how it went down actually. We were literally mid conversation last Thursday and then she just stopped texting. I sent another text a few hours later, and again nothing. Thirty hours had then gone by and I decided to send another one. I think it said something like "So I guess we're done talking now :/ Well, whatever the reason, no hard feelings. I enjoyed meeting you. Have fun catching up on Breaking Bad and good luck this semester". ... To that, still no response.
At this point I am completely baffled, and pretty irritated. I tried to shake it off and made it about four days before it really got under my skin. I like to know if I've fucked up. That way I can correct my actions in the future. Two nights ago, I finally sent something along the lines of "Hey. I told myself I wasn't going to send a follow up text, but I need to. Can you please give a reason why you just randomly stopped texting. You can even lie to me, I won't know the difference. I try to be a decent person, respectful, level-headed and not an asshole, so it worries me when someone I am texting on a daily basis for weeks just suddenly disappears without any indication as to why". The rest of the conversation went as follows...
Girl : "Hey. I started talking to you literally like a day after I started pursuing a guy at work. I don't like saying goodbye or confrontation, so I just stopped texting"
Me : "So is this the official goodbye then?"
Girl : "Yeah. But it was really great meeting you and talking to you these last couple weeks"
Me : *Deletes conversation*
Good job keeping it cool. I would have raged on this bitch. Rustled my jimmies just reading that.
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That's pretty fucked up, Chino. Sorry, dude.
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Better to learn this early on though because if this is how she handled thinks this early in dating, imagine in a long relationship.
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Had a girl do that to me freshmen year of college. Hung out for a few weeks, she borrowed a dvd, and then suddenly, boom, she stops texting me, messaging me, whatever. When I saw her on campus, she wouldn't make eye contact or say anything when I said "hi". Never got that dvd back.
I don't get people who do that. People like closure. You don't just leave them hanging. You want to stop knowing them, fine, but at least tell them. That's worse than rejecting them imo.
I agree but I found the best way to deal with those situations is just to move on as well. If you tried to get closure but you can't well then fuck it. Take everything day by day.
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Yeah, but the DVD
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Yeah, but the DVD
*nods* :<
But I do agree that moving on is best.
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Yeah, but the DVD
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One of my old girlfriends wanted to borrow my teddy bear for a while. She really liked him and said it was nice having something that smelled like me, blah blah blah. Okay fine. After we broke up, I didn't ask for him back, because I'm so manly and macho that I cannot seem to be worried about a teddy bear. It did bother me, though.
Eventually, it bugged me enough to where I looked her up and asked her about it. She'd given him away! Stupid bitch. This was years later, but still. She'd moved out and left all her stuffed animals, except for a few, in her room at home. One day, her mom was cleaning out her room and asked if she could donate all those stuffed animals to charity. She told her to go ahead. She told me that she did remember that my teddy bear was there, but since it had been so long, and I'd never said anything, she figured it was okay.
Shit. Now that I think about it, it was my own fault. Oh well, charity. Hopefully some kid is loving my teddy bear.
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I just wanted to bump this and say thanks to chino I downloaded the tinder app and had a great first date yesterday!
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Nice! I forgot I made this thread. I never updated you guys with part 2 of my experience with it!!
So after that first bitch just completely went MIA, I kept at it. I met a lovely young lady through the app named Victoria. She's two years younger than I. We went out for drinks for our first date (which she paid for!) and hit it off immediately. Everything clicked and she's everything I could ask for in a woman. We've now been officially dating for six weeks or so. Thank you modern technology.
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Nice! I forgot I made this thread. I never updated you guys with part 2 of my experience with it!!
So after that first bitch just completely went MIA, I kept at it. I met a lovely young lady through the app named Victoria. She's two years younger than I. We went out for drinks for our first date and hit it off immediately. Everything clicked and she's everything I could ask for in a woman. We've now been officially dating for six weeks or so. Thank you modern technology.
Excellent!
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:tup that's awesome to hear Chino.
Yea yesterday was awesome, we spent so long talking at the restaurant that we were asked to leave because they were closing.
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:tup that's awesome to hear Chino.
Yea yesterday was awesome, we spent so long talking at the restaurant that we were asked to leave because they were closing.
After the restaurant closed, did something else open?
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I kid, I kid. Good to hear. I'm glad someone else got positive use out of the app. At this point, when people ask either of us how we met, we just say online. It's a lot easier than trying to explain the cellphone app. I demonstrated the app to this 75 year old lady that came into work, she was absolutely mortified.
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Awesome that it worked better with this Victoria.
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*insert SFAM Victoria pun*
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*insert SFAM Victoria pun*
I play DT every now and then when she's in the car. Never the TOT sounding stuff, but a good variety. She's never asked for me to change it and has said things like "Is this that band, Dream Theater?? ... I like it". We've also sat down and watched the first 6 episodes of Cosmos.
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Finding a girl that likes Dream Theater around here is like saying the Star Wars sequels are better than the prequels, you just don't.
Congrats, dude.
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Oh man, I missed this thread initially. Lots of lols and >:( s... can't believe that first girl behaved that way, but glad the second one worked out well!
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Yeah, but the DVD
:lol.. That actually happened to me, and I bitched about it so much (it was one of my favorite movies) that the guy I dated after bought me another copy :hat
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Someone put the birthday sign up backwards.
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Nope, it's actually facing the dining room, which is where all the decorations are too.
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Nope, it's actually facing the dining room, which is where all the decorations are too.
I know. I was attempting to be facetious. :-[
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Nope, it's actually facing the dining room, which is where all the decorations are too.
I know. I was attempting to be facetious. :-[
Clearly I missed that!! :facepalm:
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Nope, it's actually facing the dining room, which is where all the decorations are too.
I know. I was attempting to be facetious. :-[
Clearly I missed that!! :facepalm:
And thank you for having a party for me by the way, even though I wasn't there.
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Nice! I forgot I made this thread. I never updated you guys with part 2 of my experience with it!!
So after that first bitch just completely went MIA, I kept at it. I met a lovely young lady through the app named Victoria. She's two years younger than I. We went out for drinks for our first date (which she paid for!) and hit it off immediately. Everything clicked and she's everything I could ask for in a woman. We've now been officially dating for six weeks or so. Thank you modern technology.
And 10 years later, everything all worked out!
I wonder, Kay.... are your posts you meeting your (now) wife?
P.S. reading thru this thread in it's entirety was such a joy. Some old-time familiar names there that I miss.
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Wow, what a cool blast from the past this thread is!
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Was reading through the thread since the huge bump.......
And, my sister in law used an online service and has met a very nice guy who she really likes.
They're married now with three kids
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Has anyone had experience with something like this in a similar situation? Please discuss.
I'd have been all over this thread had I been here when it was started. I have countless online dating stories, most of which are from 30 years ago. The oldest one I can recall was when I got my first computer in July 1993, I got on a bulletin board service called *Prodigy. I met this woman who was a Ph.D candidate in music at USC, and she and her friend were looking to meet some guys. One of my roommates and I met them at a local bar/pool hall. The woman I had been communicating with was absolutely gorgeous. Tall. Long legs. She walked in in a short skirt and heels. Her friend was also attractive, but I don't remember much about her other than she was dressed somewhat frumpy and was on crutches from a broken foot. We had a great time. She explained that she was Croatian. She didn't have an accent, but she said that she sometimes paused to "translate" between English and Croatian. She also told me that the bass player in Nirvana was her cousin. Unfortunately, while we both tried to find a mutual time to get together again, she was busy with her studies, and I with work. I actually googled her a few years ago and found that she married some rich guy and is now a highly regarded piano teacher.
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Has anyone had experience with something like this in a similar situation? Please discuss.
I'd have been all over this thread had I been here when it was started. I have countless online dating stories, most of which are from 30 years ago. The oldest one I can recall was when I got my first computer in July 1993, I got on a bulletin board service called *Prodigy. I met this woman who was a Ph.D candidate in music at USC, and she and her friend were looking to meet some guys. One of my roommates and I met them at a local bar/pool hall. The woman I had been communicating with was absolutely gorgeous. Tall. Long legs. She walked in in a short skirt and heels. Her friend was also attractive, but I don't remember much about her other than she was dressed somewhat frumpy and was on crutches from a broken foot. We had a great time. She explained that she was Croatian. She didn't have an accent, but she said that she sometimes paused to "translate" between English and Croatian. She also told me that the bass player in Nirvana was her cousin. Unfortunately, while we both tried to find a mutual time to get together again, she was busy with her studies, and I with work. I actually googled her a few years ago and found that she married some rich guy and is not a highly regarded piano teacher.
is "not", or is "now"?
The way you started to describe the first woman reminded me of the opening lyrics to Damn Yankees/Coming of Age.
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is "not", or is "now"?
The way you started to describe the first woman reminded me of the opening lyrics to Damn Yankees/Coming of Age.
That's definitely a top-5 typo for me (for some reason). I'm not familiar with the song, but I looked up the lyrics, and yeah...that's about it. If 25-year old me could have custom ordered a woman, she'd have been it.
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I would have joined in on this one too, had I known about it. All of mine would be from 20-years ago before I was married and while I was in college, and they wouldn't really be internet related.
The strangest one would have been an interstate date; nothing else to call it I guess. Driving home from Tech one evening after work, I got the attention of a girl driving another car on I-81 and somehow got her to follow me to an Applebees in Wytheville VA (of course, this would never happen nowadays). We had dinner and talked for about two hours and saw each other a few more times. Talk about complete stranger...
Other than my wife, who will always hold the title of the most beautiful woman I've ever been in contact with, this girl would be a close second with regard to physical attraction. Plus, she was wild... as evidenced by the fact that I got her to follow me to an Applebees without even speaking to her. Silliness for certain, but makes for a good story of the stupidity of my youth. :lol
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I met plenty of people online, good, bad, and ugly, in my 20s,and could probably share some stories, should I wish to revisit those times. I did meet the current Mrs. Cool Chris online, so I got that going for me,
Which is nice.
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Oh wow, blast from the past. I have no idea which DVD I was talking about in 2013. Oddly I went on what I didn't know was a date with a stranger last night.
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The strangest one would have been an interstate date; nothing else to call it I guess. Driving home from Tech one evening after work, I got the attention of a girl driving another car on I-81 and somehow got her to follow me to an Applebees in Wytheville VA (of course, this would never happen nowadays). We had dinner and talked for about two hours and saw each other a few more times. Talk about complete stranger...
A friend of mine actually met her previous bf (she's now married, but we've known each other since being kids) when we were in college in a similar situation. I wasn't there, but some how on the road they got each other's attention and connected. Definitely an odd thing, but these things do happen :lol
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I met my wife via online dating about 10 years ago. We both wish we had a better story regarding how we met, but it is what it is. I know a ton of couples that met the same way, I doubt I'm unique in that regard.
We've now been married for 6.5 years and have 2 children. She still doesn't enjoy DT at all, aside from kinda being ok with The Spirit Carries On. Our musical tastes are very different, which isn't a big deal to me and we've actually turned each other onto stuff we wouldn't otherwise have listened to. Maybe my kids will eventually enjoy DT on some level :)
One word of advice would be not to overdo it on the first date. You don't want to get stuck doing dinner with someone that you clearly have no chemistry with. You can always turn the coffee or drinks date into dinner if things are going well.
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I met my wife via online dating about 10 years ago. We both wish we had a better story regarding how we met, but it is what it is. I know a ton of couples that met the same way, I doubt I'm unique in that regard.
We've now been married for 6.5 years and have 2 children. She still doesn't enjoy DT at all, aside from kinda being ok with The Spirit Carries On. Our musical tastes are very different, which isn't a big deal to me and we've actually turned each other onto stuff we wouldn't otherwise have listened to. Maybe my kids will eventually enjoy DT on some level :)
One word of advice would be not to overdo it on the first date. You don't want to get stuck doing dinner with someone that you clearly have no chemistry with. You can always turn the coffee or drinks date into dinner if things are going well.
I didn't write this post, but - except for the "having 2 children" (we brought our own into the relationship) - I could have. We ended up going to this little restaurant/bar, and sat down, the waiter brought waters and we sat and talked for almost two and a half hours and never ordered a thing. Not even a drink. As we were walking out, the owner came out and asked if everything was ok. I'm about as smooth as an unpaved road with the ladies, but I was on point and said "everything was perfect; that was our first date and we just got lost in talking". We've been together ever since.
Postscript: Our first Christmas together, I went to the restaurant and gave one of the waiters $20 for two of their water glasses. We still have them.
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I met my wife via online dating about 10 years ago. We both wish we had a better story regarding how we met, but it is what it is. I know a ton of couples that met the same way, I doubt I'm unique in that regard.
We've now been married for 6.5 years and have 2 children. She still doesn't enjoy DT at all, aside from kinda being ok with The Spirit Carries On. Our musical tastes are very different, which isn't a big deal to me and we've actually turned each other onto stuff we wouldn't otherwise have listened to. Maybe my kids will eventually enjoy DT on some level :)
One word of advice would be not to overdo it on the first date. You don't want to get stuck doing dinner with someone that you clearly have no chemistry with. You can always turn the coffee or drinks date into dinner if things are going well.
I didn't write this post, but - except for the "having 2 children" (we brought our own into the relationship) - I could have. We ended up going to this little restaurant/bar, and sat down, the waiter brought waters and we sat and talked for almost two and a half hours and never ordered a thing. Not even a drink. As we were walking out, the owner came out and asked if everything was ok. I'm about as smooth as an unpaved road with the ladies, but I was on point and said "everything was perfect; that was our first date and we just got lost in talking". We've been together ever since.
Postscript: Our first Christmas together, I went to the restaurant and gave one of the waiters $20 for two of their water glasses. We still have them.
That is awesome, good for you guys! We went to a Starbucks after 3 or so back and forth emails on Match and sat outside for hours talking. I was too stupid to suggest going to dinner when it was obviously going very well. A fact my wife likes to point out every now and again. Honestly, I didn't want to push my luck after what was clearly a good first date.
A few days later, we sat outside at a restaurant and ended up staying there well past when they closed (owner didn't care).
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I met my wife via online dating about 10 years ago. We both wish we had a better story regarding how we met, but it is what it is. I know a ton of couples that met the same way, I doubt I'm unique in that regard.
We've now been married for 6.5 years and have 2 children. She still doesn't enjoy DT at all, aside from kinda being ok with The Spirit Carries On. Our musical tastes are very different, which isn't a big deal to me and we've actually turned each other onto stuff we wouldn't otherwise have listened to. Maybe my kids will eventually enjoy DT on some level :)
One word of advice would be not to overdo it on the first date. You don't want to get stuck doing dinner with someone that you clearly have no chemistry with. You can always turn the coffee or drinks date into dinner if things are going well.
Congrats. As for your word of advice, I totally agree. I always had a rule, no meal on a first date. It just doesn't make sense. For one, it's odd to eat in front of someone you don't know. Two, the first date is really about getting to know someone, food throws that off as you can't talk while eating, well at least not without being a bit piggy. Three, you don't want to get stuck paying the bill for someone you may never see again.
Having said that, on my first date with my gf, I nervously ordered an app... that neither of us ate :lol
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Three, you don't want to get stuck paying the bill for someone you may never see again.
Having said that, on my first date with my gf, I nervously ordered an app... that neither of us ate :lol
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Exactly. I've made the mistake before. When it happened to me, I knew the date was a dud after 10 minutes, but was along for the ride. I'm not the type to just ditch someone. You live you learn :)
A $5 cup of coffee or a beer doesn't feel so bad when things go off the rails.
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I'm not the type to ditch someone either. But I've seen social media posts of girls who order crazy amount of food expecting the guy to pay and then the guy ditches the girl. I feel like I could see myself doing that in an extreme situation. I'm not going to let a stranger walk over me like that.
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That sounds horrible, and completely believeable. Blind date, she orders expensive drinks and/or food because it's a "date" and regardless of more modern conventions, some believe that if it's a "date" then the guy pays, period. He, however, wasn't planning on that and isn't going to drop a wad of cash on some girl who's clearly just there to take advantage of him, plus it's a red flag that things aren't going to work anyway, so on the pretense of going to the restroom, he bails, because fuck that shit.
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I'm not the type to ditch someone either. But I've seen social media posts of girls who order crazy amount of food expecting the guy to pay and then the guy ditches the girl. I feel like I could see myself doing that in an extreme situation. I'm not going to let a stranger walk over me like that.
Yeah, hell no.
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I met my wife via online dating about 10 years ago. We both wish we had a better story regarding how we met, but it is what it is. I know a ton of couples that met the same way, I doubt I'm unique in that regard.
We've now been married for 6.5 years and have 2 children. She still doesn't enjoy DT at all, aside from kinda being ok with The Spirit Carries On. Our musical tastes are very different, which isn't a big deal to me and we've actually turned each other onto stuff we wouldn't otherwise have listened to. Maybe my kids will eventually enjoy DT on some level :)
One word of advice would be not to overdo it on the first date. You don't want to get stuck doing dinner with someone that you clearly have no chemistry with. You can always turn the coffee or drinks date into dinner if things are going well.
Congrats. As for your word of advice, I totally agree. I always had a rule, no meal on a first date. It just doesn't make sense. For one, it's odd to eat in front of someone you don't know. Two, the first date is really about getting to know someone, food throws that off as you can't talk while eating, well at least not without being a bit piggy. Three, you don't want to get stuck paying the bill for someone you may never see again.
Having said that, on my first date with my gf, I nervously ordered an app... that neither of us ate :lol
I personally wouldn't have a problem with that. It's a risk you take going on a date and I (again, personal opinion) don't think that #3 should deter you from going to a restaurant on a first date, if it feels like both of you want to. But that's me, someone who hasn't been on the dating scene since 2010.
On the first date with my SO (in 2010), it was a random thing that I asked her if she wanted to hang out. We had no plans so we walked for a bit, went into a restaurant. Me, not thinking much of it, got food that I normally order (fucking BBQ ribs at that! :lol though I eat ribs with a fork and knife). Her on the other hand, only ordered a cocktail and a piece of cornbread lol we still laugh about it today. After the restaurant we walked for about an hour, went into Dave and Buster's, played some games for like 2-3 hours, then we went home. It was great, even if I was being a fat-ass :biggrin:
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I met my wife via online dating about 10 years ago. We both wish we had a better story regarding how we met, but it is what it is. I know a ton of couples that met the same way, I doubt I'm unique in that regard.
We've now been married for 6.5 years and have 2 children. She still doesn't enjoy DT at all, aside from kinda being ok with The Spirit Carries On. Our musical tastes are very different, which isn't a big deal to me and we've actually turned each other onto stuff we wouldn't otherwise have listened to. Maybe my kids will eventually enjoy DT on some level :)
One word of advice would be not to overdo it on the first date. You don't want to get stuck doing dinner with someone that you clearly have no chemistry with. You can always turn the coffee or drinks date into dinner if things are going well.
Congrats. As for your word of advice, I totally agree. I always had a rule, no meal on a first date. It just doesn't make sense. For one, it's odd to eat in front of someone you don't know. Two, the first date is really about getting to know someone, food throws that off as you can't talk while eating, well at least not without being a bit piggy. Three, you don't want to get stuck paying the bill for someone you may never see again.
Having said that, on my first date with my gf, I nervously ordered an app... that neither of us ate :lol
I personally wouldn't have a problem with that. It's a risk you take going on a date and I (again, personal opinion) don't think that #3 should deter you from going to a restaurant on a first date, if it feels like both of you want to. But that's me, someone who hasn't been on the dating scene since 2010.
On the first date with my SO (in 2010), it was a random thing that I asked her if she wanted to hang out. We had no plans so we walked for a bit, went into a restaurant. Me, not thinking much of it, got food that I normally order (fucking BBQ ribs at that! :lol though I eat ribs with a fork and knife). Her on the other hand, only ordered a cocktail and a piece of cornbread lol we still laugh about it today. After the restaurant we walked for about an hour, went into Dave and Buster's, played some games for like 2-3 hours, then we went home. It was great, even if I was being a fat-ass :biggrin:
I'da been all "you eat your ribs with a knife and fork?!?" HAHA.
I'm kidding, but it illustrates the problem with food; it is, in some ways, a personal thing. I'm also probably not bringing a first date back to my apartment either. Wait till she loves you before you show all the warts and blemishes!! :) :) :)
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I think a lot's changed since 2010 in the dating world. When I first entered the dating world after a 10 year relationship around 2014, I went in thinking it was normal to take a girl out for a meal on a first date and pay. But I quickly realized a lot of girls didn't want that either. Girls don't want to eat in front of you on the first date. Like Stadler said, it's a bit too personal.
I also have another first date rule, or did as in hopefully no more first dates for me, where I will always pay, but I wont offer right away to see if the girl offers to split/pay the bill. I'm not going to accept the offer, but I want to see if it's made. Once again, it's no longer old school days where the guy pays for everything. I want a girl that has her own job/money and doesn't need to rely on me. Offering to pay shows that on some level. It's not make or break, but just like being late on the first date, it's a red flag to me.
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I eat ribs with a knife and fork because if I just eat them manimal style, I get BBQ sauce in my mustache. I can't leave it there, even between bites, so I end up using like 20 napkins by time I'm done. Eff that. I knife-and-fork it and it's much neater.
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I'da been all "you eat your ribs with a knife and fork?!?" HAHA.
I'm kidding, but it illustrates the problem with food; it is, in some ways, a personal thing. I'm also probably not bringing a first date back to my apartment either. Wait till she loves you before you show all the warts and blemishes!! :) :) :)
I was really weird about getting my hands dirty with food back then (or using my bare hands to eat for that matter), just a me thing :)
Marc, 100% get that and agree.
I eat ribs with a knife and fork because if I just eat them manimal style, I get BBQ sauce in my mustache. I can't leave it there, even between bites, so I end up using like 20 napkins by time I'm done. Eff that. I knife-and-fork it and it's much neater.
See, this guy gets it :metal :lol
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I'da been all "you eat your ribs with a knife and fork?!?" HAHA.
I'm kidding, but it illustrates the problem with food; it is, in some ways, a personal thing. I'm also probably not bringing a first date back to my apartment either. Wait till she loves you before you show all the warts and blemishes!! :) :) :)
I was really weird about getting my hands dirty with food back then (or using my bare hands to eat for that matter), just a me thing :)
Marc, 100% get that and agree.
I eat ribs with a knife and fork because if I just eat them manimal style, I get BBQ sauce in my mustache. I can't leave it there, even between bites, so I end up using like 20 napkins by time I'm done. Eff that. I knife-and-fork it and it's much neater.
See, this guy gets it :metal :lol
I really am just joshing with you; on a date, I'd have been the same way, and I have a beard now, too, so I totally get it. All in fun. :)
Sort of related, on the Bruins broadcast a couple games ago, Sofia asked all the players if they "fold their pizza". All the Americans and Europeans said "yes, of course" and all the Canadians, including Marchand, were all like "who are these people?!" It was funny.
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I have been known to separate particularly unruly ribs with a knife and fork, if absolutely necessary, but I then pick them up with my hands and engage. And the sauce may get in my mustache, but if so, after using napkins, I do a quick wash after dinner, which I always do after smoking a cigar anyway, so it's no big deal.
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Sort of related, on the Bruins broadcast a couple games ago, Sofia asked all the players if they "fold their pizza". All the Americans and Europeans said "yes, of course" and all the Canadians, including Marchand, were all like "who are these people?!" It was funny.
Why would anyone fold their pizza? That decreases your bites in half right off the bat.
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Exactly. Fewer bites, same amount of pizza in half the time. More efficient.
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Exactly. Fewer bites, same amount of pizza in half the time. More efficient.
Why would you want to cut time down on eating something like pizza? I want to savor and enjoy that shit.
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Exactly. Fewer bites, same amount of pizza in half the time. More efficient.
Why would you want to cut time down on eating something like pizza? I want to savor and enjoy that shit.
Right.
Plus, folding your pizza basically gives you a crust sandwich.
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I have been known to do the old chip/fries pizza sandwich. Slice of pizza, shit load of chips on top, maybe some ranch sauce on the chips, then sandwich the top of that bitch with another slice of pizza face down.
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I have been known to do the old chip/fries pizza sandwich. Slice of pizza, shit load of chips on top, maybe some ranch sauce on the chips, then sandwich the top of that bitch with another slice of pizza face down.
What are you, a savage? Why would anyone do that?
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I have been known to do the old chip/fries pizza sandwich. Slice of pizza, shit load of chips on top, maybe some ranch sauce on the chips, then sandwich the top of that bitch with another slice of pizza face down.
What are you, a savage? Why would anyone do that?
Because it's fucking glorious!
And yes, I am a savage.
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I have been known to do the old chip/fries pizza sandwich. Slice of pizza, shit load of chips on top, maybe some ranch sauce on the chips, then sandwich the top of that bitch with another slice of pizza face down.
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What's wrong with you fucking people, why is that so offensive? :lol
Fucking try it and thank me later.
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What's next, lube in the face?
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What's next, lube in the face?
Gonna need something to get the pizza sandwich down.
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What's wrong with you fucking people, why is that so offensive? :lol
Fucking try it and thank me later.
Without the f-bomb, that was EXACTLY Marchand's response to people who fold their pizza.
The rationale for folding - which, by the way, I do NOT do, except in the most egregious of circumstances - is to facilitate one hand eating and reduce the chance of dropping toppings or dripping if it's at all greasy.
I am by NO means a pizza snob - there is great pizza for sure, but the line between good and bad pizza is astonishingly low for me - but I can count the number of slices I've folded on maybe two hands. I don't mess around with the eating part of it.
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Minus the ranch dressing, Wolfs idea don’t sound too bad.
And folding pizza is the correct way. Unless it’s not NY style.
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If the pizza is steaming hot and you are starving and incapable of waiting 5 minutes for the cool down, folding is mandatory. This eliminates roof-of-the-mouth burns that last days. That hot cheese is an enemy to mankind.
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Never had a problem with folding, in fact most of the times you just got to unless you wish to Pollock your trousers. It's the chips and ranchy sauce part that borders blasphemy.
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The only reason to 'fold' (ie, so it ends up like a hot-dog; not like a calzone) pizza is you're eating some pie that is limp-af.
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The only reason to 'fold' (ie, so it ends up like a hot-dog; not like a calzone) pizza is you're eating some pie that is limp-af.
That, and I think size has a lot to do with it. Here in NY, is not uncommon for slices to be a tad too big (for my taste, at least). So if the slice is big, I will probably fold it.
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The only reason to 'fold' (ie, so it ends up like a hot-dog; not like a calzone) pizza is you're eating some pie that is limp-af.
That, and I think size has a lot to do with it. Here in NY, is not uncommon for slices to be a tad too big (for my taste, at least). So if the slice is big, I will probably fold it.
This is fair play, especially if you're walking (which is not uncommon).
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I mean, it's one thing to arc it and shape it a bit for ease, but I don't want crust on the bottom and crust on top. Then it's just a calzone or a hot pocket.
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Fold or don't fold, I've done both.
But folding doesn't decrease number of bites, really. It's the same amount of pizza. You're still putting the same quantity of material in your mouth before you bite it, unless you're a fucking weirdo. It's the same amount of pizza, you should eat it in the same amount of time.
It's just a different, more secure way of holding it, especially if you're eating while walking, or eating a fucking huge slice.
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Fold or don't fold, I've done both.
But folding doesn't decrease number of bites, really. It's the same amount of pizza. You're still putting the same quantity of material in your mouth before you bite it, unless you're a fucking weirdo. It's the same amount of pizza, you should eat it in the same amount of time.
It's just a different, more secure way of holding it, especially if you're eating while walking, or eating a fucking huge slice.
Well, in theory, total up and down chews doesn't really decrease, but it does cut down the amount of bites out of the actual slice of pizza, because you're taking in twice as much pizza each time you bite the slice.
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I mean, it's one thing to arc it and shape it a bit for ease, but I don't want crust on the bottom and crust on top. Then it's just a calzone or a hot pocket.
This is my thought. I definitely make a U shape out of a larger, NY style slice of pizza to keep it from flopping around too much. But I'd never fold it completely in half.
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Fold or don't fold, I've done both.
But folding doesn't decrease number of bites, really. It's the same amount of pizza. You're still putting the same quantity of material in your mouth before you bite it, unless you're a fucking weirdo. It's the same amount of pizza, you should eat it in the same amount of time.
It's just a different, more secure way of holding it, especially if you're eating while walking, or eating a fucking huge slice.
Well, in theory, total up and down chews doesn't really decrease, but it does cut down the amount of bites out of the actual slice of pizza, because you're taking in twice as much pizza each time you bite the slice.
Why would you take in twice as much pizza? The pizza is now twice as thick. Why wouldn't you take a smaller bite than if it was unfolded?
Unless you eat unfolded pizza like a normal person and folded pizza like a ravenous wolfhound. Which, I don't know, maybe you do. But I'm putting the same quantity of stuff into my facehole whether it's folded or not.
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Fold or don't fold, I've done both.
But folding doesn't decrease number of bites, really. It's the same amount of pizza. You're still putting the same quantity of material in your mouth before you bite it, unless you're a fucking weirdo. It's the same amount of pizza, you should eat it in the same amount of time.
It's just a different, more secure way of holding it, especially if you're eating while walking, or eating a fucking huge slice.
Well, in theory, total up and down chews doesn't really decrease, but it does cut down the amount of bites out of the actual slice of pizza, because you're taking in twice as much pizza each time you bite the slice.
Why would you take in twice as much pizza? The pizza is now twice as thick. Why wouldn't you take a smaller bite than if it was unfolded?
Unless you eat unfolded pizza like a normal person and folded pizza like a ravenous wolfhound. Which, I don't know, maybe you do. But I'm putting the same quantity of stuff into my facehole whether it's folded or not.
Yeah, but it's at a different pace. There's a difference between bites and chews. The chews stay the say, but the bites decrease.
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Folding pizza is the way
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I hate pizza. Like, I literally cannot stand the thought of biting into it.
Alright, I see myself out :rollin
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Folding pizza is the way
... to chaos!
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Fold or don't fold, I've done both.
But folding doesn't decrease number of bites, really. It's the same amount of pizza. You're still putting the same quantity of material in your mouth before you bite it, unless you're a fucking weirdo. It's the same amount of pizza, you should eat it in the same amount of time.
It's just a different, more secure way of holding it, especially if you're eating while walking, or eating a fucking huge slice.
Well, in theory, total up and down chews doesn't really decrease, but it does cut down the amount of bites out of the actual slice of pizza, because you're taking in twice as much pizza each time you bite the slice.
Why would you take in twice as much pizza? The pizza is now twice as thick. Why wouldn't you take a smaller bite than if it was unfolded?
Unless you eat unfolded pizza like a normal person and folded pizza like a ravenous wolfhound. Which, I don't know, maybe you do. But I'm putting the same quantity of stuff into my facehole whether it's folded or not.
Yeah, but it's at a different pace. There's a difference between bites and chews. The chews stay the say, but the bites decrease.
What?
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Finally. I've infected Tim.
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Fold or don't fold, I've done both.
But folding doesn't decrease number of bites, really. It's the same amount of pizza. You're still putting the same quantity of material in your mouth before you bite it, unless you're a fucking weirdo. It's the same amount of pizza, you should eat it in the same amount of time.
It's just a different, more secure way of holding it, especially if you're eating while walking, or eating a fucking huge slice.
NEVER underestimate that facet of the conversation. :) :) :)
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Fold or don't fold, I've done both.
But folding doesn't decrease number of bites, really. It's the same amount of pizza. You're still putting the same quantity of material in your mouth before you bite it, unless you're a fucking weirdo. It's the same amount of pizza, you should eat it in the same amount of time.
It's just a different, more secure way of holding it, especially if you're eating while walking, or eating a fucking huge slice.
Well, in theory, total up and down chews doesn't really decrease, but it does cut down the amount of bites out of the actual slice of pizza, because you're taking in twice as much pizza each time you bite the slice.
Why would you take in twice as much pizza? The pizza is now twice as thick. Why wouldn't you take a smaller bite than if it was unfolded?
Unless you eat unfolded pizza like a normal person and folded pizza like a ravenous wolfhound. Which, I don't know, maybe you do. But I'm putting the same quantity of stuff into my facehole whether it's folded or not.
Yeah, but it's at a different pace. There's a difference between bites and chews. The chews stay the say, but the bites decrease.
Maybe I'm not explaining myself correctly.
When I take a bite of pizza, I'm taking a mouthful of pizza. If it's folded, I'm still taking a mouthful. If I take a bit of folded pizza, and then unfold it, it's the same amount of pizza I would have if I took a bite of unfolded pizza.
I'm always taking a mouthful. So it's the same number of bites. It's the same number of mouthfuls.
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That's what she said.
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That's what she said.
You damn right.
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Fold or don't fold, I've done both.
But folding doesn't decrease number of bites, really. It's the same amount of pizza. You're still putting the same quantity of material in your mouth before you bite it, unless you're a fucking weirdo. It's the same amount of pizza, you should eat it in the same amount of time.
It's just a different, more secure way of holding it, especially if you're eating while walking, or eating a fucking huge slice.
Well, in theory, total up and down chews doesn't really decrease, but it does cut down the amount of bites out of the actual slice of pizza, because you're taking in twice as much pizza each time you bite the slice.
Why would you take in twice as much pizza? The pizza is now twice as thick. Why wouldn't you take a smaller bite than if it was unfolded?
Unless you eat unfolded pizza like a normal person and folded pizza like a ravenous wolfhound. Which, I don't know, maybe you do. But I'm putting the same quantity of stuff into my facehole whether it's folded or not.
Yeah, but it's at a different pace. There's a difference between bites and chews. The chews stay the say, but the bites decrease.
Maybe I'm not explaining myself correctly.
When I take a bite of pizza, I'm taking a mouthful of pizza. If it's folded, I'm still taking a mouthful. If I take a bit of folded pizza, and then unfold it, it's the same amount of pizza I would have if I took a bite of unfolded pizza.
I'm always taking a mouthful. So it's the same number of bites. It's the same number of mouthfuls.
Ok...
Here's a slice of pizza..
(https://i.imgur.com/uT7BXcC.jpg)
Here is it folded in half..
(https://i.imgur.com/fUTUcEd.jpg)
This circle represents one bite of the pizza..
(https://i.imgur.com/lh8kNCV.jpg)
Now, here's how many bites of the flat slice it takes to eat it..
(https://i.imgur.com/P390PUK.jpg)
..and here is the folded in half slice..
(https://i.imgur.com/DkZoktO.jpg)
You may have just as many in mouth "chews" as it's the same amount of food, but at the point of intake, it's 16 bites, or actions, to eat the flat slice, and about half as many bites, or actions, to eat the folded slice.
Therefore, you gat on avaeage about half the bites of the folded slice than you do the flat slice.
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I love the effort you put into that :lol :topscore:
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That assumes that the size of the circles are the same whether flat or folded. 1=1; 2=2; 3=3 etc.... What Hef is saying is that with a folded pizza, the 'circle size' of the bite is smaller, because it's twice as thick.
Unless you take kid-sized bite of a flat pizza, or can mystically double the capacity of your mouth with a folded pizza, your logic is flawed.
HOW THE FUCK DID WE GET THIS DEEP INTO FOLDED PIZZA IN THIS THREAD!?!?!?
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I have been known to do the old chip/fries pizza sandwich. Slice of pizza, shit load of chips on top, maybe some ranch sauce on the chips, then sandwich the top of that bitch with another slice of pizza face down.
To be honest dude, that sounds fucking incredible. I'd maybe switch up the sauce, but other than that I'm good to go.
Pizza is probably my favourite food so I'd fold it, roll it, fucking smoke it. Just get it in me.
Also kudos to your post Tim, but I have some issues...
1. What sort of bland white pizza they serving in 'Murica?
2. Either that pizza slice is huge, or your mouth is tiny, which is it? There ain't no way a regular slice is 16 bites!! It's like 6 max!
3. Folded pizza is like 4 bites :lol
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I have been known to do the old chip/fries pizza sandwich. Slice of pizza, shit load of chips on top, maybe some ranch sauce on the chips, then sandwich the top of that bitch with another slice of pizza face down.
To be honest dude, that sounds fucking incredible. I'd maybe switch up the sauce, but other than that I'm good to go.
Pizza is probably my favourite food so I'd fold it, roll it, fucking smoke it. Just get it in me.
Pizza enema?
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Ok...
Here's a slice of pizza..
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HOW THE FUCK DID WE GET THIS DEEP INTO FOLDED PIZZA IN THIS THREAD!?!?!?
This shit right here is why I love DTF! Y'all are awesome!
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I have been known to do the old chip/fries pizza sandwich. Slice of pizza, shit load of chips on top, maybe some ranch sauce on the chips, then sandwich the top of that bitch with another slice of pizza face down.
To be honest dude, that sounds fucking incredible. I'd maybe switch up the sauce, but other than that I'm good to go.
Pizza is probably my favourite food so I'd fold it, roll it, fucking smoke it. Just get it in me.
Pizza enema?
Oh, you mean Sunday breakfast? Sure.
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GOD DAMMIT
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:slowclap:
I love the effort you put into that :lol :topscore:
I was thinking the same thing. That's epic.
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That assumes that the size of the circles are the same whether flat or folded. 1=1; 2=2; 3=3 etc.... What Hef is saying is that with a folded pizza, the 'circle size' of the bite is smaller, because it's twice as thick.
Unless you take kid-sized bite of a flat pizza, or can mystically double the capacity of your mouth with a folded pizza, your logic is flawed.
No it isn't. A bite of pizza will be predicated on how deep and wide you can get your mouth around it. Folded or not, you're going to put in your mouth as far back as you can, therefore the circumference of each bite will be constant whether it's folded or not. The fact that its folded and ultimately twice as thick, shouldn't affect the ground area of the actual bite.
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You may have just as many in mouth "chews" as it's the same amount of food, but at the point of intake, it's 16 bites, or actions, to eat the flat slice, and about half as many bites, or actions, to eat the folded slice.
Therefore, you gat on avaeage about half the bites of the folded slice than you do the flat slice.
No.
First of all, I don't know WTF you are talking about "chews" for. No one is talking about chewing, because that's not what we're talking about.
Whether a slice is flat or folded, it is still the same amount of pizza. If my bite is a mouthful, which it is, it's a mouthful either way. If I can eat a flat slice in 10 bites,then it it will still take me 10 bites of a folded slice, because one bite = one mouthful of pizza. Neither my mouth nor the pizza has increased or decreased in volume due to the action of folding the slice.
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That assumes that the size of the circles are the same whether flat or folded. 1=1; 2=2; 3=3 etc.... What Hef is saying is that with a folded pizza, the 'circle size' of the bite is smaller, because it's twice as thick.
Unless you take kid-sized bite of a flat pizza, or can mystically double the capacity of your mouth with a folded pizza, your logic is flawed.
No it isn't. A bite of pizza will be predicated on how deep and wide you can get your mouth around it. Folded or not, you're going to put in your mouth as far back as you can, therefore the circumference of each bite will be constant whether it's folded or not. The fact that its folded and ultimately twice as thick, shouldn't affect the ground area of the actual bite.
How does the volume of food you can put in your mouth all of a sudden allow for *double* the amount of pizza in a single bite? Let me ask you this. Let's say it takes 16 bites to finish a 10oz NY striploin. If you fold it in half, are you going to finish it in 8 bites?
If you're finishing a folded slice in 1/2 the bites, then you're taking different sized bites depending on flat vs folded; Hef's stance is that he takes the same volume of food no matter if the slice is flat, or folded. This isn't that complicated.
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I mean, I certainly didn't think it was lol
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That assumes that the size of the circles are the same whether flat or folded. 1=1; 2=2; 3=3 etc.... What Hef is saying is that with a folded pizza, the 'circle size' of the bite is smaller, because it's twice as thick.
Unless you take kid-sized bite of a flat pizza, or can mystically double the capacity of your mouth with a folded pizza, your logic is flawed.
No it isn't. A bite of pizza will be predicated on how deep and wide you can get your mouth around it. Folded or not, you're going to put in your mouth as far back as you can, therefore the circumference of each bite will be constant whether it's folded or not. The fact that its folded and ultimately twice as thick, shouldn't affect the ground area of the actual bite.
How does the volume of food you can put in your mouth all of a sudden allow for *double* the amount of pizza in a single bite? Let me ask you this. Let's say it takes 16 bites to finish a 10oz NY striploin. If you fold it in half, are you going to finish it in 8 bites?
If you're finishing a folded slice in 1/2 the bites, then you're taking different sized bites depending on flat vs folded; Hef's stance is that he takes the same volume of food no matter if the slice is flat, or folded. This isn't that complicated.
But that's the difference between a bite and a chew. Yes, if you fold the steak in half, you'll consume it in half the bites, but just as many chews.
Bite= Biting off a piece of the thing that you put in your mouth
Chew= Chewing it once it's in your mouth
You can't make your mouth twice as deep or twice as wide, but you can double the height of whatever your eating generally.
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What TAC is saying makes sense though. Is not about the volume of food going into your mouth, but about how much you can bite off in a single bite. If you fold it, that is twice as much as if it was unfolded.
Think about taking two slices of bread, separate, you need twice as many bites to eat them. If you stack them, you can bite off more with a single bite.
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This would be a wonderful conversation while on a date with a complete stranger.
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What TAC is saying makes sense though. Is not about the volume of food going into your mouth, but about how much you can bite off in a single bite. If you fold it, that is twice as much as if it was unfolded.
Think about taking two slices of bread, separate, you need twice as many bites to eat them. If you stack them, you can bite off more with a single bite.
Exactly. Thank you.
This would be a wonderful conversation while on a date with a complete stranger.
:lol :lol
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For NY style, folding is the proper way to eat it.
If it's Chicago style, you got bigger problems my friend.
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All I know is the odds of me counting my chews at dinner just increased, and knowing myself like I do, I'm likely going to be burning brain cells working through this while watching the Bruins later. Thanks. Thanks a lot.
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:lol
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All I know is the odds of me counting my chews at dinner just increased, and knowing myself like I do, I'm likely going to be burning brain cells working through this while watching the Bruins later. Thanks. Thanks a lot.
Bullshit. Pretty sure you're usually figuring out mouth width and depth, at least during the pregame show. ;D
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What TAC is saying makes sense though. Is not about the volume of food going into your mouth, but about how much you can bite off in a single bite. If you fold it, that is twice as much as if it was unfolded.
Think about taking two slices of bread, separate, you need twice as many bites to eat them. If you stack them, you can bite off more with a single bite.
No. One mouthful = one mouthful.
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How TAC and Victor learned to eat as children...
(https://media.tenor.com/eyTxcd1djqAAAAAC/april25-spaghetti.gif)
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:lol
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How TAC and Victor learned to eat as children...
(https://media.tenor.com/eyTxcd1djqAAAAAC/april25-spaghetti.gif)
:lol
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How does the volume of food you can put in your mouth all of a sudden allow for *double* the amount of pizza in a single bite? Let me ask you this. Let's say it takes 16 bites to finish a 10oz NY striploin. If you fold it in half, are you going to finish it in 8 bites?
Now I want to try folding my steak.
Tim, I see where you're going, but if I'm eating this burger:
(https://i.insider.com/618c341e596d9b0011185eb9?width=750&format=jpeg&auto=webp)
I'm going to take bigger "bites" (in the 2-dimensional sense that you previously described) than if I'm eating this burger:
(https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTsqw4vQe3YJTM9sZeEue5Kn3dUJ0a0djT8_Q&usqp=CAU)
Why? Because, in the 3-dimensional sense, I want roughly the same volume of food in each bite.
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How does the volume of food you can put in your mouth all of a sudden allow for *double* the amount of pizza in a single bite? Let me ask you this. Let's say it takes 16 bites to finish a 10oz NY striploin. If you fold it in half, are you going to finish it in 8 bites?
Now I want to try folding my steak.
Tim, I see where you're going, but if I'm eating this burger:
(https://i.insider.com/618c341e596d9b0011185eb9?width=750&format=jpeg&auto=webp)
I'm going to take bigger "bites" (in the 2-dimensional sense that you previously described) than if I'm eating this burger:
(https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTsqw4vQe3YJTM9sZeEue5Kn3dUJ0a0djT8_Q&usqp=CAU)
Why? Because, in the 3-dimensional sense, I want roughly the same volume of food in each bite.
Well, the problem there is that it's too tall for the height of your mouth, and therefor likely an outlier to what I'm saying. The height of the burger will change the how deep you can put it in your mouth and how wide as well. In the example of a pizza, or Victor's two bread slice example, the height of the folded pizza slice or the two pieces of bread does not change the length and width of the actual bite.
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Minus the ranch dressing, Wolfs idea don’t sound too bad.
And folding pizza is the correct way. Unless it’s not NY style.
Thank you sir! I mean, you can use any sauce you want, or if there's enough pizza sauce on your pizza, then no sauce required, it's all a win!
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I have been known to do the old chip/fries pizza sandwich. Slice of pizza, shit load of chips on top, maybe some ranch sauce on the chips, then sandwich the top of that bitch with another slice of pizza face down.
To be honest dude, that sounds fucking incredible. I'd maybe switch up the sauce, but other than that I'm good to go.
It sounds incredible because it is incredible!! As I mentioned, you have options for sauce, or no sauce.
Also, reading through the last page is making my head spin like a top!
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This would be a wonderful conversation while on a date with a complete stranger.
I'm so grateful in reading the last page before my blind date tonight. I've been stressing hard on a conversation piece.
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This is how I'm picturing you people eating pizza
https://youtube.com/shorts/Zgta0TNQp5c?si=SvHg1QmW6eYWr7UA
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This is how I'm picturing you people eating pizza
https://youtube.com/shorts/Zgta0TNQp5c?si=SvHg1QmW6eYWr7UA
One mouthful = one mouthful.
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This is how I'm picturing you people eating pizza
https://youtube.com/shorts/Zgta0TNQp5c?si=SvHg1QmW6eYWr7UA
One mouthful = one mouthful.
:lol
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This is how I'm picturing you people eating pizza
https://youtube.com/shorts/Zgta0TNQp5c?si=SvHg1QmW6eYWr7UA
And if he folded it in half, he could have a slice twice as big.
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All I know is the odds of me counting my chews at dinner just increased, and knowing myself like I do, I'm likely going to be burning brain cells working through this while watching the Bruins later. Thanks. Thanks a lot.
Bullshit. Pretty sure you're usually figuring out mouth width and depth, at least during the pregame show. ;D
This is unfortunately true. :)