Blegh, sounds like you and phonesexy hit your expiration date. Sex talk and stuff is fine, but if there's not much substance that shit gets old.
I know it's all frustrating, but there will be better ones!
I basically just pictured X-Men's Colossus doing yoga.
Now I've got a boner. God damn it.
, not quite.
Okay, so here's the situaion:
First date: Beer and sushi, great conversation, good sex.
Second date: dinner and art, more great conversation, cuddling because we were both exhausted and he had to get up early.
Third "date": he brought his partner (woman he's been dating a while, obviously polyamorous) to a reading I did. She was super cool but we didn't get to talk much and they left at intermission, which was a bit awkward but fine. He said later they wanted to enjoy some quality time together on their date night (vs. watching a bunch of assholes read ridiculous shit from their teenage diaries- I get it haha).
Fourth date: He came over this past Friday, cooked dinner (with some help from me), we listened to music and had more good conversation, then we watched Insurgentes and both fell asleep for a bit on the couch. He gave me a hug and left. He had to get up sort of early so that was fine, but not even an effort for a kiss or anything. I didn't feel comfortable going in for it, nor did I feel comfortable trying to snuggle up or put my arm around him during the movie, because it almost seemed like he sat just far away from me enough to make that weird. Like, as much of a pansy as I am I normally would make some sort of move to at least touch a person I've slept with, but I was not getting those sort of vibes at all.
I'm trying to figure out if:
A. He really was just super tired and that's why his vibe was weird, because it sounded like he had an exhausting week
B. He's just not a super horny/sexual guy (which is just really weird for me, and I often don't last very long with those types)
C. He's even more shy than me when it comes to making moves, and I need to be more aggressive (also don't do well with those types for very long; I'm such a sub
)
D. He's just not into me that way anymore all of a sudden
E. ??
I'm too chicken to say something, but I did text him a bit ago (we haven't talked since Friday) telling him I hope he had a good weekend and thanks again for the food and good company. I guess if he doesn't answer by tomorrow (he's a bit of a slow texter) I'll know where we stand. I'm not head over heels for him or anything, but I really like talking and hanging with him. And fucking him, the one time. So I'm not sure what to make of all this, but I'm too busy/tired to be too anxious about it.