So we know about Prog and his daughter and his worries about dating. We've heard Stadler talk about his dating experience having a kid. What about the rest of us that don't have kids? Do you guys date people with children? Since I'm generally looking for something serious and I'm not sure I ever want kids, the prospect scares the shit out of me. And it has nothing to do with thinking this person would expect something from me. I've also thought that I could be missing out on my perfect woman because she already has a child.
Chino nailed it. I know for me, I found a fucking gold mine treasure trove of women who married in high school/college, guy turned out to be a dud, but were looking at 35, with a child or two, and the daunting prospect of starting over. Not all of them have their shit together, I grant you, but these are - bear with the stereotype - predominantly women who aren't interested any longer in what shirt you wear, whether you like to play an occasional game of PS3, and aren't really interested in the self-absorbed sort of drama that a lot of younger, single women have, but are looking for a guy to share life with, experiment in life with, and all they ask is to be treated with a modicum of respect and dignity. It does, of course, depend on how old the kid is, and you have the burden of an ex that is NOT going anywhere, but I have found that in a statistically significant number of cases, this isn't NEARLY the problem it might sound like. Not always, but it's not like you see on TV where all single moms are fat slobs with six screaming hellions wallowing in their cereal on the floor.
Plus, and not to be at all crude, but there is something incredibly sexy about a woman who is secure, who knows what she wants, knows that her chances around the merry-go-round are finite, and needs to knock off a couple things from her bucket list. Right now, if I had the choice between an attractive single girl of 22 or an attractive single mom of 35 to have sex with, all things being relatively equal? No question.
Again, I'm generalizing, so bear with me, but I'm trying to present what you might find if you dig hard enough. I was scared shitless to be single again with a kid after being married for almost 15 years; I thought that I would never have any interesting sex again unless I paid for it. I certainly hope that my current marriage lasts forever, and I'm deeply in love with my wife, but it's for the right reasons. I certainly am not "scared" to be single again.