Yes. And Andy clearly seems to hold an underlying belief in denial of self to the point of near asceticism. That makes it difficult to offer advice either from a truly Christian point of view or from a non-religious viewpoint because, coming from most perspectives, I think a lot of us agree that selfishness is "bad." But beyond that, we all also probably agree that complete or near asceticism is not the goal. It is certainly an option, but it isn't one that most of us can identify with or offer any advice on. And, again, coming from a Christian perspective myself, I can say that while a few religious groups who label themselves Christian may teach near or complete asceticism, that is not really what Jesus or his disciples (including Paul) taught, so it is missing the point to try to hold that as the goal for aching a better relationship with God.