Time to share something personal. I think I mentioned it elsewhere already but my wife and I decided to make a big move from the states to Europe to be closer to our kid that moved here. Unfortunately the stress and cultural adjustments needed ended up being a breaking point for our marriage, leading to a divorce.
Adjusting to life in a new country without the person I had spent years with has been challenging to say the least. It's been a while now and we're both still here, though my ex-wife has moved on and found someone new. As for me, I haven't really thought about dating since the divorce. It's been quite a journey of self-discovery.
I'm sharing this because, well, sometimes it's just nice to put your thoughts into words and send them out into the world, even if it's to a bunch of strangers on the internet. Thanks for reading!
Crikey. What country are you in?
Had an 11 year relationship finish last year. We weren't married but she was my best friend. It was all amicable but we're sadly no longer really friends and see my avatar? Lost my best buddy in the split, too. Heart breaking, to be honest. I moved in here four months after we agreed to split and then two weeks later was told I was being made redundant, totally out of the blue, after 15 years.
But here I am a year and a lot of dating site rejection later, and I still know the split was the best thing for both of us. The last year has been tough with all the changes but I'm doing fine! And bloody hell, it's amazing to have a proper film room now, and also to not get wound up about the state of my partner's toothbrush (she never used to rinse it properly. It's obviously totally unimportant but we all know how silly stuff gets magnified!). Still miss her sometimes, though. Only natural. I hope she's well. But damn, losing my dog. That hurt and still hurts.
Went years without sex. Happy to be open about it. Was never obsessed by it so it was... sort of okay going without? Anyway, that's turned around recently although I don't know that I'd call her my partner. It's very early days. But we've had fun when we've met and I'm seeing her again on Friday.
Wish I'd noticed this thread months ago, to be honest. As you said above, PMSummer, it's good to just get thoughts out.