Great post MWS! I'll have more time for detailed discussion tomorrow.
...I need a keyboard.
I'll await your eloquent response with all due eagerness, Tim! This should be the pinnacle of maturity...
Ok, let me start with this first...
She understood where I was coming from, but also defensively said "I'm an adult and can do what I want".
Did she follow that up with "Na nana nana-na"?
I am certainly not going to tell Lordixor's wife to grow up, as I don't have all of the facts and a view into the Ixor's lives.
But simply reading what has been presented, it does come across to me as a maturity, or an alcohol, issue.
I know if I acted as Ixor has dexcribed his wife, my wife would certainly tell me to grow the hell up.
TAC and MoraWintersoul, I have to respectfully disagree.
In my experience, it is never a good idea to have expectations for other people; especially in regards to the effect of their behavior on you personally; especially when the other person is someone you love and exchanged vows with. Both of you have commented on maturity, are you seriously suggesting the lordxizor should tell his wife to "grow up". Um, I'm sorry, but that's probably the opposite of the intent of this thread.
That doesn't make sense. I most certainly have expectations for my wife. Like, I
expect her to not bang every dude she sees. I expect her to not steal my 401k. I expect her to not poison me when she makes dinner. And as husband and wife, we expect each other to act in an acceptable and respectful manner.
Expectations of acceptable behavior should not be confused with being controlling.
If my wife gets trashed, it is my problem. That is until I decide that I will not accept it anymore. Then it becomes her problem to confront. Plenty of marriages have failed because of alcoholism, or social overdrinking.
If a husband is going to let it fly for now, then it obviously doesn't bother him enough. And that's ok. If a marriage can tolerate that, great, but one spouse getting trashed acting like a sorority co-ed, at some point, may ultimately find themselves incompatible with their husband.
If this is a small chink in the wife's armor, then one can try and tolerate it as best as they can.
And again, I'm trying not to comment on Lordixor personally, as I most certainly don't walk in his shoes and understand his whole family dynamic, but using his example to speak in generalities.