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Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« on: October 13, 2009, 09:16:06 PM »
I will say yes.

Backdrop: I joined a Christian dating site for fun, nothing serious. Just a good way to learn how to communicate with the opposite sex better, especially of the same beliefs.

So I was looking at who was online, and stumbled upon this profile description. The girl is OK-looking, not too bad, but after reading her profile, I was just amazed.

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About Me
I am looking for a relationship leading to marriage with a compatible guy. I'm ready to find my future husband and build our life together. Please read entire profile before contacting me to make sure you're who I'm looking for! :)

If there are parts of my profile you do not fit, we are NOT a match, and as such do not contact me. I've had enough of you guys who don't fit what I'm looking for thinking it could possibly work out. IT WONT!
I've made this profile this specific because I am very serious about finding "the one" and building our life together. I've had enough of dating and am ready to find you, if you exist.

Moral and religious values are a requirement for me, as you will see by reading this profile. If you don't have them, there is no point in your reading the rest of this.

Religion is important in a relationship to me. I attend church service at least once a week, and am looking for the same.

I am not a girl who has a lot of friends or who hangs out with friends. In fact, I do not have any friends. A guy with a similar friend situation works best with me. By the way, you guys who enjoy your "guys nights", we are not a match.

I am not into the party, bars, or drinking scene either, and am looking for a guy who also is not into it. I do not smoke or drink and am looking for the same.

I am looking for a serious relationship. I want to become a housewife for my future husband.

Guys, being employed and a college graduate is a requirement.

If you are looking for "just friends", don't waste my time.

I am looking for a man who is ready to be honest and loyal to ONE woman (a. k. a. me!).
I feel that honesty and time spent with your significant other is very important. Therefore a guy who enjoys spending as much time as possible with me (both in person and on the phone) is also a requirement. I do not like or tolerate space in a relationship, and if you do, then we are not a match.

If you travel, we are not a match.

If you hunt, we are not a match.

If you gamble, we are not a match.

If you skydive, we are not a match.

If you are into motorcycles, we are not a match.

I am selective about the content of the music and movies I listen to and watch. Anything with vulgarity or immoral themes I do not watch or listen to. I am looking for someone who feels the same on this topic as well. It causes issues if you don't feel the same.

These next couple paragraphs get into some "personal" specifics I'm looking for. Please do not email me saying that all guys do these things.
I am looking for someone who does NOT pleasure themselves or look at pornography (and yes guys, Playboy and similar magazines are porn). If you do this, do not waste my time.

Also I'm looking for someone who has not yet been married and who is still a virgin! If saving yourself for marriage is not important to you and you are not still a virgin, again don't waste my time. "True love waits", if you're waiting till marriage you understand this.

As for tattoos and piercings, let me know in your first email if you have any or not.

I do not want kids someday. If having kids is important to you, we are not a match.

Also I've had enough of you guys who email one or two emails and then disappear for no reason after that. If that is how you go about this, leave me alone.

Well, if you got through reading this, fit the above things, and feel you are compatible with me, then please send an email! I'm looking forward to hearing from you! :)

A few questions to start your email, are you a virgin? What are your views on tattoos? How often do you attend church? Do you phone your girl at least once a day to talk about your day?

I'm tired of the dating games and of you guys who date multiple at a time as well. I only communicate with and go out with one guy at a time. If you are a guy who is going on with multiple girls, it will NOT work out between us.

Well, if you fit all of the above, please message, until then I don't think you exist.

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I love you and am praying for you. Looking forward to meeting who you are! :)

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #1 on: October 13, 2009, 09:21:28 PM »
Yeah.... that girl is not gonna find anyone.

I could deal with the music and not going to bars and drinking and/or smoking but... guys night, liking motorcycles, not having kids, being a housewife?!?!?! FUCK YOU!!!
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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #2 on: October 13, 2009, 09:21:39 PM »
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Well, if you fit all of the above, please message, until then I don't think you exist.

A note to my future husband,
I love you and am praying for you. Looking forward to meeting who you are! :)
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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #3 on: October 13, 2009, 09:22:12 PM »
wow....i really want to know how many guys are just jumping to answer this one.  I mean she seems to sweet and loving...
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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #4 on: October 13, 2009, 09:22:22 PM »
I'm approximately 118% sure that she is an insufferable, clingy bitch who is destined to be alone forever.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #5 on: October 13, 2009, 09:23:08 PM »
All I see is that she's very serious about her religion. Sure, it looks strange to those who don't share the same beliefs, but if a devout, conservative Christian guy looks at her profile (and that's obviously what she's looking for), everything would look fine.

Well, the lack of friends thing was pretty weird, I'll admit.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #6 on: October 13, 2009, 09:23:15 PM »
I'm approximately 118% sure that she is an insufferable, clingy bitch who is destined to be alone forever.
She probably has 15 cats and watches TV with an ice cream pint.
Joe and I in the same squad is basically the virtual equivalent of us plowing a rape van through an elementary school playground at recess.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #7 on: October 13, 2009, 09:24:25 PM »
My prediction of what this lady shall be like in about 10 or so years:
I felt its length in quite a few places.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #8 on: October 13, 2009, 09:25:06 PM »
I thought her ideas of religion and conservatism were fine...the whole you are not aloud to have friends and you have to sit on top of me all the time thing was a bit off. I mean Nick is the first to tell people I am a tad clingy to him but I expect him to have friends my gosh!
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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #9 on: October 13, 2009, 09:25:25 PM »
She'll find plenty of takers; there's one born every minute. 

Of course from my perspective, both her and her future husband are complete whack jobs.  It was rather striking that she and I have almost exactly opposite interests in a significant other.  Eh, to each his own. 
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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #10 on: October 13, 2009, 09:25:42 PM »
I donīt know. She was just making as clear as possible what she likes/dislikes. I understand how a lot of that seems pure nitpicking but at the same time I understand how every one of those points could be relevant/important for a girl. And, after all, every human being is picky about lots of things.

What specific things make you think sheīs too selective? She didnīt talk about money, having a nice car or a nice body. She just seems to be very sensitive about moral issues (most of them like gambling, drinking, tatoos etc. I can perfectly understand if sheīs a Christian and spends time in a church environment) and that is valid IMO. If she was a mormon she would have said "If you like coffee we are not a match" and giving her context that would be reasonable.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #11 on: October 13, 2009, 09:26:45 PM »
I'm approximately 118% sure that she is an insufferable, clingy bitch who is destined to be alone forever.
She probably has 15 cats and watches TV with an ice cream pint.
Are you crazy?!  There's too much immorality on TV!  She clearly eats her pint of ice cream while playing checkers against herself.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #12 on: October 13, 2009, 09:27:43 PM »
And I have to say, things like not drinking, smoking, waiting until marriage to have sexual intercourse, cursing or watching shows with offensive content are things that I would appreciate if I would be looking for someone with a serious relationship in mind. Itīs just what I think and find attractive in others, and everyone's entitled to have their own preferences.

But I found strange that she said she has no friends. She doesnīt seem to be the most friendly person in the world but everybody has friends, even people who are difficult to deal with.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #13 on: October 13, 2009, 09:27:51 PM »
I know a chick like this...not fun. She tried to convert me. :lol

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #14 on: October 13, 2009, 09:31:05 PM »
I know a chick like this...not fun. She tried to convert me. :lol
There was a girl in my algebra 2 class last year who thought I was in cahoots with Satan. All because I wore this shirt to school one day
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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #15 on: October 13, 2009, 09:32:12 PM »
And I have to say, things like not drinking, smoking, waiting until marriage to have sexual intercourse, cursing or watching shows with offensive content are things that I would appreciate if I would be looking for someone with a serious relationship in mind. Itīs just what I think and find attractive in others, and everyone's entitled to have their own preferences.

To this post and the one you made before it, I understand, but she is saying that if you do ONE, YES ONE OF THOSE THINGS, she will judge that about you and say it will never work. Since I am not a virgin, no matter how much I've prayed that I am sorry about it, she would never accept me. It's ridiculous if I actually wanted to ask her out or something.

I mean, yeah, I do like some of her views, but it's too religious.

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« Reply #16 on: October 13, 2009, 09:32:54 PM »
I know a chick like this...not fun. She tried to convert me. :lol
There was a girl in my algebra 2 class last year who thought I was in cahoots with Satan. All because I wore this shirt to school one day


Too bad this chick is in her 40's...

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #17 on: October 13, 2009, 09:35:39 PM »
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I am not a girl who has a lot of friends or who hangs out with friends. In fact, I do not have any friends.


One crucial question, how old is she? Is she fugly? Does she kiss? Will she ever gonna have sex in marriage... at all? Does she like anything in life?

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #18 on: October 13, 2009, 09:36:01 PM »
I think she's looking for a gang bang but she's hiding it well heh
I wouldn't want somebody with 18 kids to mow my damn lawn, based on a longstanding bias I have against crazy fucks.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #19 on: October 13, 2009, 09:36:34 PM »

To this post and the one you made before it, I understand, but she is saying that if you do ONE, YES ONE OF THOSE THINGS, she will judge that about you and say it will never work. Since I am not a virgin, no matter how much I've prayed that I am sorry about it, she would never accept me. It's ridiculous if I actually wanted to ask her out or something.

I mean, yeah, I do like some of her views, but it's too religious.


Well, she already made it clear:
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Moral and religious values are a requirement for me, as you will see by reading this profile.


Going along with what you say, does it seem too much? Definitely, I would agree with you in that sense.


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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #20 on: October 13, 2009, 09:36:48 PM »
I know a chick like this...not fun. She tried to convert me. :lol
There was a girl in my algebra 2 class last year who thought I was in cahoots with Satan. All because I wore this shirt to school one day

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #21 on: October 13, 2009, 09:37:21 PM »
And I have to say, things like not drinking, smoking, waiting until marriage to have sexual intercourse, cursing or watching shows with offensive content are things that I would appreciate if I would be looking for someone with a serious relationship in mind. Itīs just what I think and find attractive in others, and everyone's entitled to have their own preferences.

What annoyed me the most about her was that EVERYTHING was a dealbreaker.  I don't have much experience with romantic relationships, but from everything that I have learned from friends and everything I have learned from my relationships with friends, family and acquaintances says that strong, trusting relationships rely heavily on compromises and cooperation.

I think she needs to have the common sense to realize that her ideal man isn't going to be the one that necessarily completes a checklist.  There's a big difference between someone that's perfect for you on paper and someone that's perfect for you in reality.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #22 on: October 13, 2009, 09:37:33 PM »
And I have to say, things like not drinking, smoking, waiting until marriage to have sexual intercourse, cursing or watching shows with offensive content are things that I would appreciate if I would be looking for someone with a serious relationship in mind. Itīs just what I think and find attractive in others, and everyone's entitled to have their own preferences.

To this post and the one you made before it, I understand, but she is saying that if you do ONE, YES ONE OF THOSE THINGS, she will judge that about you and say it will never work. Since I am not a virgin, no matter how much I've prayed that I am sorry about it, she would never accept me. It's ridiculous if I actually wanted to ask her out or something.

I mean, yeah, I do like some of her views, but it's too religious.

Well, she already made it clear:
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Moral and religious values are a requirement for me, as you will see by reading this profile.
Going along with what you say, does it seem too much? Definitely, I would agree with you in that sense.
Hey, I'm a Catholic :emindead: but that girl is whack.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #23 on: October 13, 2009, 09:39:16 PM »
I know a chick like this...not fun. She tried to convert me. :lol
There was a girl in my algebra 2 class last year who thought I was in cahoots with Satan. All because I wore this shirt to school one day

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I felt its length in quite a few places.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #24 on: October 13, 2009, 09:39:49 PM »
On a serious note: if that girl lived in Egypt she'll be married by next week, religious Egyptian Christians are just what she wants and she's exactly what they want.
I wouldn't want somebody with 18 kids to mow my damn lawn, based on a longstanding bias I have against crazy fucks.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #25 on: October 13, 2009, 09:41:38 PM »
And I have to say, things like not drinking, smoking, waiting until marriage to have sexual intercourse, cursing or watching shows with offensive content are things that I would appreciate if I would be looking for someone with a serious relationship in mind. Itīs just what I think and find attractive in others, and everyone's entitled to have their own preferences.

What annoyed me the most about her was that EVERYTHING was a dealbreaker.  I don't have much experience with romantic relationships, but from everything that I have learned from friends and everything I have learned from my relationships with friends, family and acquaintances says that strong, trusting relationships rely heavily on compromises and cooperation.

I think she needs to have the common sense to realize that her ideal man isn't going to be the one that necessarily completes a checklist.  There's a big difference between someone that's perfect for you on paper and someone that's perfect for you in reality.
So, are you saying that maybe she should be more open about certain things and more willing to cooperate with the other person to build a relationship instead of just pointing out what she doesnīt want in a guy? I agree with that.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #26 on: October 13, 2009, 09:42:18 PM »
I know a chick like this...not fun. She tried to convert me. :lol
There was a girl in my algebra 2 class last year who thought I was in cahoots with Satan. All because I wore this shirt to school one day

The power of Christ compels you!
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I remember this one time on the bus I was blasting something, I can't remember what exactly on my Zune and this kid taps me on the shoulders and says, "Do you worship Satan?" and my reply was "Yes, and if you bother me again Satan will steal your soul." I think the kid shit himself.
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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #27 on: October 13, 2009, 09:43:27 PM »
I've been trying to pin down her daddy issues; which are numerous.  The two things that struck out at me were: "No skydivers" and her flexibility regarding tattoos.  Why compromise on tats, but nothing else.  Definitely a strange bird. 

Hey Lat, This was the shirt that got me into trouble during school.  I also had a pretty vulgar Venom shirt, but since the sacrificial chick had her knockers out, I didn't wear it to school.
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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #29 on: October 13, 2009, 09:45:05 PM »
Come to think of it she could have saved time and typing effort and just said she wants a Star Wars fan
 KAPOOOM!
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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #30 on: October 13, 2009, 09:45:33 PM »
So, are you saying that maybe she should be more open about certain things and more willing to cooperate with the other person to build a relationship instead of just pointing out what she doesnīt want in a guy? I agree with that.

Yeah, pretty much.

If she expects to only bother with the very limited number of people that will satisfy every last requirement on her list, she will be frustrated for a long time.

If she's more open to sacrificing a few of those requirements for a guy that really seems sincere, she'll find happiness--and that great husband she wants so bad--a lot more quickly.  Or, at the very least, she's more likely to find happiness at all this way.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #31 on: October 13, 2009, 09:46:05 PM »
Well, I sent her a message. I told her the truth about me. The only thing she shouldn't like is that I am not a virgin. I only answered the questions that she said you should start an email with.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #32 on: October 13, 2009, 09:47:13 PM »
Well, I sent her a message. I told her the truth about me. The only thing she shouldn't like is that I am not a virgin. I only answered the questions that she said you should start an email with.

James... if she made a huge deal about the other things... trust me... shes gonna make a huge deal about your virginity.

Its not worth your time man.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #33 on: October 13, 2009, 09:48:09 PM »
Hey Lat, This was the shirt that got me into trouble during school.  I also had a pretty vulgar Venom shirt, but since the sacrificial chick had her knockers out, I didn't wear it to school.
o/

I love wearing shirts that have potential for shocking people. Not because I'm an attention whore, but because I enjoy fucking with people.

I got a few awesome looks from preppy girls at my school for this beauty as well

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I felt its length in quite a few places.

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Re: Tell me if this girl is too selective.
« Reply #34 on: October 13, 2009, 09:49:08 PM »
Well, I sent her a message. I told her the truth about me. The only thing she shouldn't like is that I am not a virgin. I only answered the questions that she said you should start an email with.
Why would you even be interested?  Please tell my you're just joking with her.
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