Things that I find mildly irritating v.2

[Chino]

He didn't ask the groom about his friends?

I really have no idea. Knowing the groom and his hatred of spoilers, odds are he wanted this weekend to be as much of a surprise as possible. He likely refused to talk to his brother about the plans outside of what weekend and where. He's not selfish, but he's also not one take into account other people's situations. Case in point, a bunch of his friends work low wage retail jobs and he was fine with having a 3 day long bachelor party a few hundred miles away...

The brother is a dick.   Sorry, but if you commit to that kind of affair, you should assume that you foot it and anything you get is a bonus.  I've been (tangentially; I was you Chino) in that situation, and the "brother" reached out to one of the friends to give input.   He (the "brother") ended up paying more than his even split, but knew it going in, and everyone was reasonably happy.   In your case the brother at least ought to be talking to you guys about it.

"Tangentially" ... I have to Google the definitions of so many words because of you 

I'm not even pissed about the money. Well maybe a little, but it's not what I'm most pissed at. It's the fact that he didn't utter a single word to us about plans. Hell, we didn't even know where it was until last night. All we've known up until this point was that we were spending the weekend in NY somewhere. We actually still don't even know the address of the house we're staying in.

Had this brother reached out to any of us, I would have been the first to say "yeah.... half the people you're inviting can't afford that. You're going to have to realistically bring this down to about $300 per person, max, and even that would be stretching some guys' budgets.  Don't do this" . The wedding is only seven weeks away, and to expect some these guys to fund this weekend, afford the rentals for the groom's wedding party, and then bring a gift is a tall order given what they make. I feel really bad for them actually.

[cramx3]

Sometimes these wedding parties end up with people having the role of organizing when they have little skills to support that role.  My gf is currently experiencing this as well.

[Chino]

Sometimes these wedding parties end up with people having the role of organizing when they have little skills to support that role.  My gf is currently experiencing this as well.

I don't get why everything has to be so complicated. I get that his brother wants to make a memorable weekend, but come on. Planning 3 full days of pre-paid activities hundreds of miles away seems a little excessive.  I've already told my buddies that all I want to do for my bachelor party is monster trucks and titties. And if there are no monster truck shows happening in the area at that time, I'll settle for casino and titties. Simple.

[cramx3]

Like my group of friends are similar to you, they didnt want to do anything extravagant.  Just get a house in the poconos and booze for the weekend.  We literally did that for 3 of my friends bachelor parties.  My one friend wanted something extravagant because his brother and cousins wanted that and they organized it.  They went to New Orleans.  None of my friends went.  I felt so bad, but I could not afford to do that 5 years ago.  Now, I probably could, but back then I didn't have the vacation time or money to travel.  His brother didn't take any of that into account and not a single one of his friends from high school went. 

For me personally, I'd totally love to get my friends to go on a Vegas trip, but the reality is, most of my friends can't do that.  I'd end up doing something more low key because at the end of the day, I want to be with my friends and I want everyone to have fun, not worry about money.

[Stadler]

He didn't ask the groom about his friends?

I really have no idea. Knowing the groom and his hatred of spoilers, odds are he wanted this weekend to be as much of a surprise as possible. He likely refused to talk to his brother about the plans outside of what weekend and where. He's not selfish, but he's also not one take into account other people's situations. Case in point, a bunch of his friends work low wage retail jobs and he was fine with having a 3 day long bachelor party a few hundred miles away...

The brother is a dick.   Sorry, but if you commit to that kind of affair, you should assume that you foot it and anything you get is a bonus.  I've been (tangentially; I was you Chino) in that situation, and the "brother" reached out to one of the friends to give input.   He (the "brother") ended up paying more than his even split, but knew it going in, and everyone was reasonably happy.   In your case the brother at least ought to be talking to you guys about it.

"Tangentially" ... I have to Google the definitions of so many words because of you 

I'm not even pissed about the money. Well maybe a little, but it's not what I'm most pissed at. It's the fact that he didn't utter a single word to us about plans. Hell, we didn't even know where it was until last night. All we've known up until this point was that we were spending the weekend in NY somewhere. We actually still don't even know the address of the house we're staying in.

Had this brother reached out to any of us, I would have been the first to say "yeah.... half the people you're inviting can't afford that. You're going to have to realistically bring this down to about $300 per person, max, and even that would be stretching some guys' budgets.  Don't do this" . The wedding is only seven weeks away, and to expect some these guys to fund this weekend, afford the rentals for the groom's wedding party, and then bring a gift is a tall order given what they make. I feel really bad for them actually.

The only one that REALLY suffers is the groom.  "Where are my bros?"; if it's all a surprise, it is possible that he'll never get the whole story about why some of his friends aren't there. 

[Chino]

He didn't ask the groom about his friends?

I really have no idea. Knowing the groom and his hatred of spoilers, odds are he wanted this weekend to be as much of a surprise as possible. He likely refused to talk to his brother about the plans outside of what weekend and where. He's not selfish, but he's also not one take into account other people's situations. Case in point, a bunch of his friends work low wage retail jobs and he was fine with having a 3 day long bachelor party a few hundred miles away...

The brother is a dick.   Sorry, but if you commit to that kind of affair, you should assume that you foot it and anything you get is a bonus.  I've been (tangentially; I was you Chino) in that situation, and the "brother" reached out to one of the friends to give input.   He (the "brother") ended up paying more than his even split, but knew it going in, and everyone was reasonably happy.   In your case the brother at least ought to be talking to you guys about it.

"Tangentially" ... I have to Google the definitions of so many words because of you 

I'm not even pissed about the money. Well maybe a little, but it's not what I'm most pissed at. It's the fact that he didn't utter a single word to us about plans. Hell, we didn't even know where it was until last night. All we've known up until this point was that we were spending the weekend in NY somewhere. We actually still don't even know the address of the house we're staying in.

Had this brother reached out to any of us, I would have been the first to say "yeah.... half the people you're inviting can't afford that. You're going to have to realistically bring this down to about $300 per person, max, and even that would be stretching some guys' budgets.  Don't do this" . The wedding is only seven weeks away, and to expect some these guys to fund this weekend, afford the rentals for the groom's wedding party, and then bring a gift is a tall order given what they make. I feel really bad for them actually.

The only one that REALLY suffers is the groom.  "Where are my bros?"; if it's all a surprise, it is possible that he'll never get the whole story about why some of his friends aren't there.

Ditto. I've actually been debating telling him this all morning because I'm not sure whether or not he knows.

[chknptpie]

I was in the organizers position for my sister's bachelorette party. She actually wanted a combination of shower/bachelor/bachelorette party.

Soooo I had to buy 20 tickets to the ASU/Oregon football game which I had to pay $1700 up front. Before I purchased, I made my sister verify everyone who would attend. Multiple people didn't show or pay me back - so I think I lost out on $500 there. After the football game we went to a strip club.

I would caution that the brother isn't totally at fault here. The groom may be requesting certain aspects of the weekend.

[Prog Snob]

Flat-earthers

[TioJorge]

I was in the organizers position for my sister's bachelorette party. She actually wanted a combination of shower/bachelor/bachelorette party.

Soooo I had to buy 20 tickets to the ASU/Oregon football game which I had to pay $1700 up front. Before I purchased, I made my sister verify everyone who would attend. Multiple people didn't show or pay me back - so I think I lost out on $500 there. After the football game we went to a strip club.

I would caution that the brother isn't totally at fault here. The groom may be requesting certain aspects of the weekend.

Fuuuuuuuck that. Holy shit I'd be lopping heads off.

[Chino]

I was in the organizers position for my sister's bachelorette party. She actually wanted a combination of shower/bachelor/bachelorette party.

Soooo I had to buy 20 tickets to the ASU/Oregon football game which I had to pay $1700 up front. Before I purchased, I made my sister verify everyone who would attend. Multiple people didn't show or pay me back - so I think I lost out on $500 there. After the football game we went to a strip club.

I would caution that the brother isn't totally at fault here. The groom may be requesting certain aspects of the weekend.

Fuuuuuuuck that. Holy shit I'd be lopping heads off.

Yeah, I'd be fucking livid.

[ReaperKK]

That would've pissed me off to no end. My buddy did it right, he asked if we could afford to go to Vegas, myself and two other friends said yea so we went. A month later we had a second bachelors party at a bar with us and the guys who couldn't afford to go.

[chknptpie]

Well 3 months later she had an affair and got pregnant... sooooooooo yeah I'm still a bit upset on how much money I spent on her sham of a wedding - not just the bachelorette party.

[Chino]

Well 3 months later she had an affair and got pregnant... sooooooooo yeah I'm still a bit upset on how much money I spent on her sham of a wedding - not just the bachelorette party.

I feel you. The girl my buddy is marrying is a total succubus and nothing would thrill me more greatly than to object at the wedding.

 

[cramx3]

 

[Chino]

3 days before they got engaged, he texted me asking if he could rent my attic (it's finished with a bathroom) out because he and his now fiance were likely through. Several months before that, he told me he was going to break up with her because she said he didn't fit into her 10 year plan and that he wouldn't be at the "proper financial level" that would allow her to achieve what she plans to achieve.

[cramx3]

Got to say, I reached a point with my friend where I told him I had to escape from my house to get away from my (at the time) fiance.  I bet he was thinking the same thing you were up until I actually ended things.  But that sounds ripe for a divorce.  This guy should not follow through with things.

[Podaar]

3 days before they got engaged, he texted me asking if he could rent my attic (it's finished with a bathroom) out because he and his now fiance were likely through. Several months before that, he told me he was going to break up with her because she said he didn't fit into her 10 year plan and that he wouldn't be at the "proper financial level" that would allow her to achieve what she plans to achieve.

Wow, that's pretty brutal.

[Phoenix87x]

Well 3 months later she had an affair and got pregnant... sooooooooo yeah I'm still a bit upset on how much money I spent on her sham of a wedding - not just the bachelorette party.

Hopefully he didn't have to pay child support for the kid that was produced by the affair. I've heard horror stories like that.

3 days before they got engaged, he texted me asking if he could rent my attic (it's finished with a bathroom) out because he and his now fiance were likely through. Several months before that, he told me he was going to break up with her because she said he didn't fit into her 10 year plan and that he wouldn't be at the "proper financial level" that would allow her to achieve what she plans to achieve.

Yup, that sounds like a certified, card carrying succubus right there. If I heard that crap, I would be running in opposite direction real quick.

[Stadler]

3 days before they got engaged, he texted me asking if he could rent my attic (it's finished with a bathroom) out because he and his now fiance were likely through. Several months before that, he told me he was going to break up with her because she said he didn't fit into her 10 year plan and that he wouldn't be at the "proper financial level" that would allow her to achieve what she plans to achieve.

I'da told her she wasn't at the proper level to allow my penis to achieve what I want it to achieve.   

I'm kidding of course, but the "three days before" thing gets me; presumably HE asked HER, so what was he thinking???

[Chino]

3 days before they got engaged, he texted me asking if he could rent my attic (it's finished with a bathroom) out because he and his now fiance were likely through. Several months before that, he told me he was going to break up with her because she said he didn't fit into her 10 year plan and that he wouldn't be at the "proper financial level" that would allow her to achieve what she plans to achieve.

I'da told her she wasn't at the proper level to allow my penis to achieve what I want it to achieve.   

I'm kidding of course, but the "three days before" thing gets me; presumably HE asked HER, so what was he thinking???

At that point they had been dating for close to 4 years and had recently moved into an apartment. He's a very prideful guy that hasn't had the best luck with the ladies. Last thing he wanted to do was admit defeat and have to move back in with his parents. Before this girl, he had one other serious relationship, and that ended in a very ugly fashion. I think he was/is of the mindset that this was his/is last shot. I think the engagement was a last ditch effort to hold the relationship together.

BTW, you met this guy last year at the DT concert when we met up before the show.

[Kotowboy]

The Geordie lass who worked at the cafe was a total loose cannon as I may have mentioned...

Broke up with her ex and then married the first guy that showed any interest. They split up 3 months later...

She got caught drunk-driving and was banned for a year...

Few days later was caught AGAIN but this time with no licence of course...

She moved back up north to Newcastle and last I heard she was receiving care for mental health problems...

Dear me...

[cramx3]

Broke up with her ex and then married the first guy that showed any interest.

My ex got engaged to the first guy she dated after I broke up our engagement.  I must have dated 25 girls before I settled with my current GF in that timespan.  Maybe she found mr wonderful, but I think the odds of that are very low and more likely she went with the first guy to show interest in her after me.

[TioJorge]

I think that's fairly common, or at the very least not uncommon. The first girlfriend I ever had was a weird first relationship, 6 years, and when SHE broke up with ME (but not before cheating on me), she married the first dude after we broke up a mere couple months later.

Apparently they're both deep into drugs and hate each other now.

So I'm pretty happy about that.

I am an angel.

[Kotowboy]

I hate that if you have insomnia there is literally *NOTHING* you can do about it but just lie there and wait.

[Prog Snob]

I feel your pain. I don't even want to say what my average amount of nightly sleep is. Not to mention working the night shift for the last few months has been nothing but toxic for me. I am constantly seeing things.

[Phoenix87x]

I struggled with night shift and sleep too. One thing I found that helped was when I got home to use a sleep eye mask and ear plugs. Black out curtains can help too, just as long as your closed eyes don't have light hitting them, since that will not allow Melatonin to be produced, which is what helps you get to sleep.

And then I will throw on some Benadryl or tablet melatonin if I need to. But I totally agree, night shift can really wreak havok on you

[Prog Snob]

I used to use Excedrin PM to sleep. I never felt so refreshed waking up. However, it would render me useless for hours so I would either need to be sleeping or just stuck at home. I can't force myself to function on it. I've already gone off the road many times due to lack of sleep.

[JayOctavarium]

Allergies.


I never had issues till this year.

This past week has been a living hell. Sinuses. Sneezing. Dry bloodshot eyes. I look like I am constantly stoned. 

[JayOctavarium]

Also:

The fact that the MLB At Bat app has used up 500mb of my 4gb of Data for my phone this month. I dont remember that app using so much data in the past. I haven't even used it to stream games. It's all just background data.

[Phoenix87x]

Allergies.

I never had issues till this year.

This past week has been a living hell. Sinuses. Sneezing. Dry bloodshot eyes. I look like I am constantly stoned.

Are you taking anything to help? If not I would recommend some plain once a day zyrtec. Its what I take and I found it helpful

[Prog Snob]

Also:

The fact that the MLB At Bat app has used up 500mb of my 4gb of Data for my phone this month. I dont remember that app using so much data in the past. I haven't even used it to stream games. It's all just background data.

Make sure it's not hanging up in the background and pulling data from something you clicked that constantly reloads. If you have an Android phone, just use something like CCleaner to clean up your memory.

[JayOctavarium]

Allergies.

I never had issues till this year.

This past week has been a living hell. Sinuses. Sneezing. Dry bloodshot eyes. I look like I am constantly stoned.

Are you taking anything to help? If not I would recommend some plain once a day zyrtec. Its what I take and I found it helpful

I killed off our Allegra, and now I am taking a generic branded allergy med. It's not helping much at all. I snagged a Claritin D from my coworker yesterday and it worked wonders. But now I am back to the shit stuff.

Also:

The fact that the MLB At Bat app has used up 500mb of my 4gb of Data for my phone this month. I dont remember that app using so much data in the past. I haven't even used it to stream games. It's all just background data.

Make sure it's not hanging up in the background and pulling data from something you clicked that constantly reloads. If you have an Android phone, just use something like CCleaner to clean up your memory.

That's what it was doing. It was refreshing the scores on the widget every FIFTEEN seconds. I changed it to the maximum refresh rate (1min), and cleared the widget from my homescreen. If that doesn't help, I'll uninstall the app. Which is shitty seeing as T-Mobile gave everyone free subs to MLB TV Premium this year.

[Prog Snob]

You don't have to delete the app. Just make sure it's not hanging up in memory.

[JayOctavarium]

So I was doing some research... and realized that I qualify for like.. T-Mobile's unlimited video streaming (confirmed via a customer service rep). The At Bat App is included.

THIS MEANS THAT I CAN STREAM GAMES FOR FREE BUT IT COSTS DATA TO JUST GET SCORE UPDATES. WTF T-MOBILE??

lol

[ReaperKK]

I hate that if you have insomnia there is literally *NOTHING* you can do about it but just lie there and wait.

This is my girlfriend, she'll lay down at 12 and be up until 4.