"Tolerance" is "I'll sell to homosexuals in my store. I'll agree that they can marry. But I still feel it's a choice they make, and they're genetic mutants for wanting to have sex that way." Do you honestly think that would be an acceptable point of view in the climate today? You don't think SOMEONE would respond that that person is a homophobe?
That person would be the definition of a homophobe, yes.
Boom, point made. Why? They don't treat them any differently. You don't "choose" the person - not the gender, the PERSON - you sleep with? You've basically just said that even acknowledging that homosexuality is genetic may still be ground for being a "homophobe". What more could you possibly want??
I don't "want" anything, it was your cartoonish example.
What's cartoonish about it? There are people that feel that way. In a sense, that's me. I believe that we are born at a certain point on the sexual continuum. Some of us are solely heterosexual, others are solely homosexual, some are at a transition point on that continuum. I have no bias against a person for being homosexual, and would never treat them any different than if that person were straight. I believe all people have the choice about WHO they sleep with. Meaning, I'm in a committed relationship. It is MY CHOICE if I sleep with someone outside that relationship. At the end of my first marriage, the last say, two or three years were sexless. I was not having congress with my wife. I did not have sex with anyone outside of my marriage and that was MY CHOICE. I don't feel I have a right to "have sex". If I cheated on my wife, I wouldn't get to say "well, I was BORN this way, and it's NATURAL." No, I can control my urges.
I feel pedophiles are born as such as well. But I'm comfortable with having that be illegal because I feel we can be held accountable for our urges. The pedophile doesn't get to argue that he/she was "born that way" or that his urges are "natural".
I mention the "pedophile" not to compare it to homosexuality - there are profound differences, not least of which is "consent" - but to note that I am fascinated by the nature/nuture debate, and I feel like if we were asking more fundamental questions about heterosexuality/homosexuality, we might glean insight into other human conditions that potentially cause irreparable harm.
Yet, you called me a "homophobe". Cool beans.