IIRC, you're a white, heterosexual, married American lawyer?
Eh, not exactly accurate. But for purposes of this discussion (i.e., that I am not
part of the group in discussion), close enough, I suppose.
Comedy to dismantle power structures, and make fun of those in better-off positions is generally fair game. This is 'punching up' in the comedy world. To mock those who are dis-empowered, when you are not part of that group yourself (IIRC, you're a white, heterosexual, married American lawyer?) is 'punching-down'; a vicious and vulgar brand of 'humour'.
I understand, but this is one area where we disagree. I don't really like the "punching up"/"punching down" description, because I don't think it is indicative of what all humor is about, and doesn't specifically apply to this situation. I don't think all (or even most) humor entails any "mocking" whatsoever. And mine certainly did not--other than perhaps mocking myself
for being clueless. I wasn't mocking at all. But let's just leave it at that. I'm not trying to defend myself and say that you shouldn't
be offended. I'm just trying to articulate why we disagree. I apologize for causing offense, and am hopeful that you are okay with that.