Not sure why I'm posting this here really, but I just felt the need to share an interesting story. I'm currently a Junior in college, and will be in my final year of undergrad in the fall, and finish in the Spring. I'm excited, because I can't wait to look desperate searching for jobs with my extremely convenient Psychology degree! In all seriousness though, I'll be going straight to grad school, hopefully, and further my education. Anyway, that's not what this is about, but moreso the living situation. Every year I've lived in a different place, and I've enjoyed doing that.
Freshman year: I lived in the dorms with one of my best friends, Matthew. It was fun, but at the same time, it felt very constricting, just a small dorm, and sharing a bathroom wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.
Sophomore year: I lived in one of many little townhouses with 3 friends. Matthew again, and my other great friends, John and Carson. It was fun because it was off campus and it felt like a house really. It was the hangout spot for all our other friends, and while that was awesome, it got pretty bad because the place turned into a wreck. There were usually no less than 6 people there at a time in a small house. Considering I'm the only one of all my friends that has any knowledge of cooking and cleaning, it got really old, real fast. It looked awful, as people left food on the counters and tables (even pizza on the couches), and tracked dirt and leaves in. It was an interesting experience, but I wanted something a little more tame the following year.
Junior year (this year): I live in an apartment with Matthew, again, and another friend I never lived with before, Caleb. Well I'll have you know this guy is a straight up pain in the ass to live with. We are good friends, but I realized quickly he's not good roommate material. Matthew always keeps to himself really and plays Xbox in his free time, and he cleans after himself so I've never had issues with him. Caleb, on the other hand, gets really moody, and it gets quite annoying. He's one of those people that when you suggest something, he always swats it away and finds something to get mad about. Not to mention he's very messy and brings nothing productive to the table. Still, I'm the only one that even cooks, so I feel like a fuckin' maid/babysitter half the time.
Well, I'm in the 2nd half of my junior year, and I'm thinking, shit, I don't want to do this anymore. I should really start thinking what's best for me, and not cater to what other people need, as I usually tend to do. So I mentioned to him back in November that I may not be living here in the fall, hence I won't be renewing the lease. I never gave him a definite answer, but I hinted and strongly implied that I'm exploring other options. I've met a lot of people in my fall semester (in my psychology classes expecially), and I think some of these people would be great roommates. One of these people is my great friend, Ashly. Ashly and I have been amazing friends since we met, and we are constantly hanging out. We both love to cook, and we are very clean. Beyond that, we have pretty much the same tastes in music, movies, and whatnot. Basically, we click extremely well.
So I've talked to her and I honestly think she would make an awesome roommate. She says the same about me. Considering I like to try new things every year, and going into my last year, I think getting a place with her could be a fun experience. I have a feeling I'll really enjoy it much more than my other living situations. So we are definitely set on living together in the fall, and we are probably going to go ahead and sign a lease for a 2 bedroom place in the next few weeks.
So the fun part is telling my roommates. The issue here is I feel bad for leaving my friend Matthew because I've lived with him every year and he's been a good roommate. However, he's not even sure if he will be at the university in the fall, so I guess he's either considering transferring or maybe just working, as he doesn't really have anything sorted out. So he's not renewing the lease to this place until way down the road. I can't really wait months to hear his decision, so I told him of my plans to move with Ashly and he is completely cool with that, as expected. Now, my other roommate, Caleb, well.. it's different with him. He kept telling me that he hopes I renew my lease because he has no other friends to live with. So he's trying to guilt trip me. I told him of the plans and now he has ignored me for 3 days
He keeps telling all my friends how "low" my move was, and how horrible of a friend I am.
Well, in my defense, I let him know back in November that I probably won't be staying, so it's not like I'm suddenly jumping ship. Also, I have NO obligations to be his roommate, especially when he is a selfish dick much of the time. He keeps telling everyone I'm stupid for "Going to live with my girlfriend" in the fall, which is completely false. I wouldn't sign a lease with a new girlfriend, as I could only imagine the endless negative outcomes of that. And honestly, it's his own fault for not making friends in college. He was even in a fraternity so I don't understand why he can't find ONE person to live with.
So really, one roommate is cool, the other is pissed and is acting childish. What do y'all think? Am I doing the right thing? I've been nothing but nice to him, and I told him in the nicest way possible what my plan in the fall is. Also, has anyone had prior experience of living with someone of opposite sex? I'm curious, so share stories if you'd like. Hell, share any funny roommate stories if you want, this thread can be for that too.
tl;dr: I'm leaving my roommates to live with a new friend of opposite sex next semester, one is mad, the other is cool.
Topic: Roommate Drama! (Read 6546 times)
