Women who like Dream Theater

[Skeever]

Out of curiosity, just how many are there? A brief questionnaire:

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater?
2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?
3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?
4. Why didn't she like them?
5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?
6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT?

[Cable]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater? None in the wild
2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?  Yes
3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater? Yes
4. Why didn't she like them? No concrete reason, but I'm guessing for the usual reasons.
5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song? No.
6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT? IWBY, TW

[KevShmev]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater?

None that I can think of (in real life, not counting here).

3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?

Yes.

4. Why didn't she like them?

Too noisy, can't dance to it, etc.

5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?

Probably, back in my 20s, but I can't remember which songs.

6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT?

Hollow Years, The Spirit Carries On or Another Day.
 

[Calvin6s]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater?
Yes.  Quite a few through out my life, but never more than 1-5 at a time (Not counting net women you don't meet in real life).  The # I know at a time depends more on me (levels of metal sociability in life)

2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?
No.  If I did, I don't remember it.  I was pretty pushy for DT 1992-1995, but I didn't keep track of converts and was mostly dude musicians in my social circles.  The DT women were DT women before I met them.

3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?
Absolutely.  Quite the uphill battle.  If I'm not into "the lady" beyond friends, it is easier.  No relationships ever seemed to have a real interest in my metal (glam metal excluded) concert going.  Thanks for bringing up the painful memories of begging my girlfriend to go to Monsters of Rock (Van Halen+4) only to get shot down so badly that I had to ask "are we still cool?"  On the flip side, if I'm not into them (mainly because I'm not really into *metal chicks*) I can get them to go to any concert.  Iron Maiden.  Sure,  Anthrax?  Sounds great.  Pantera? If you like 'em, I like 'em.  And now you are reminding me of all the girls that liked me, but I didn't like them in that way for stupid reasons.  This is not a good trip down memory lane.

4. Why didn't she like them?
See Blind Melon review of Dream Theater.

5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?
Dude.  Do you hate me?
Yes.  Only once, because it went nothing like I hoped.  Relatively new *relationship*.  Songs are nostalgic.  Why can't I have one of my favorite albums/songs linked up to these nostalgic memories?  Tonight, I don't care how bad this idea sounds, my new Dream Theater Awake CD that I absolutely love is going to get played when we come back here tonight.  Always had a CD ready to go ... but more so my roommates didn't get to be auditory spectators than seriously thinking about setting a mood.  The album brought me joy.  I knew it had dark songs, but surely not every song is a mood killer.  Pushed play.  I love that tom roll intro.  It didn't take long for her to say "really?  this is what we are going to be listening to?"  So I pushed skip ... Caught in a Web "Nope"  IF "Nope", ok, regroup.  Erotomania ... I know the song title, but she doesn't, so I said no for her.  Oh wait, there's a very un-metal song at the end.  Start playing.  Wow.  I knew this was melancholy, but damn this is starting to feel like a slasher movie with this playing.  Ok.  Why didn't I listen to myself?  Because you were tired of compromising.  Later, it was made clear that band was never to be played again for that.

6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT? 
Depends on the woman.  I almost never converted the woman to DT, so best not to ask me.

[FlyingBIZKIT]

5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?
Dude.  Do you hate me?
Yes.  Only once, because it went nothing like I hoped.  Relatively new *relationship*.  Songs are nostalgic.  Why can't I have one of my favorite albums/songs linked up to these nostalgic memories?  Tonight, I don't care how bad this idea sounds, my new Dream Theater Awake CD that I absolutely love is going to get played when we come back here tonight.  Always had a CD ready to go ... but more so my roommates didn't get to be auditory spectators than seriously thinking about setting a mood.  The album brought me joy.  I knew it had dark songs, but surely not every song is a mood killer.  Pushed play.  I love that tom roll intro.  It didn't take long for her to say "really?  this is what we are going to be listening to?"  So I pushed skip ... Caught in a Web "Nope"  IF "Nope", ok, regroup.  Erotomania ... I know the song title, but she doesn't, so I said no for her.  Oh wait, there's a very un-metal song at the end.  Start playing.  Wow.  I knew this was melancholy, but damn this is starting to feel like a slasher movie with this playing.  Ok.  Why didn't I listen to myself?  Because you were tired of compromising.  Later, it was made clear that band was never to be played again for that.

 

[bl5150]

Out of curiosity, just how many are there? A brief questionnaire:

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater?

Yes - my younger sister


2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?

Yes

3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?

Never really tried , other than my sister.


4. Why didn't she like them?

N/A

5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?

No
6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT?

I put Another Day on a compilation of "ballady" rock for my wife and she quite liked it.  So I'll go with that.

[King Postwhore]

My wife.  We were engaged when we saw our first DT show in 1993.   She already liked hard rock and metal so it was easy for her to get into DT.  She still loved them too.
 

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater?  -- My Wife
2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?  -- Yes
3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?  -- Of course.  Some of her friends only want to boogie.
4. Why didn't she like them?  --  Their girls and like dance or country, not hard rock or metal.
5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song? --  Too many to count with the wifey.
6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT?  --  I Walk Beside you then work to the harder songs ect....

[Skeever]

I'm loving the responses so far, especially Calvin's 

I better answer my own thread:

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater? Yes
2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater? No
3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater? Never got anyone "into" them, introduced a few people to them that claim to like them but would never listen to them without me in charge of music in the car
4. Why didn't she like them? Too much instrumental, not enough memorable vocals and lyrics
5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song? No, sadly. I get too distracted by music to do anything else while it's on.
6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT? I like to try and SHOW the band, actually. If I'm feeling really good about a girl, sometimes I'll see if she wants to check out my DT DVDs.

[Prog Snob]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater? Yes, quite a few
2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater? A couple of them
3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater? No
4. Why didn't she like them?
5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song? No
6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT? The Spirit Carries On

I've dated women in the past who are DT fans. My ex-wife is a fan. Back when I had an AOL profile, she recognized the quote from Wait For Sleep and that's how we started talking. 

[Sycsa]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater?
Yeah, two, one is a hardcore fan who wears DT t-shirts and is also a singer who idolizes JLB.

2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?
I introduced one of my exes to DT who ended up having the TDOE ragtime as a ringtone for a year or so, but she couldn't get into DT because JLB's voice irritated her.

3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?
Yeah, my current gf. We don't really match in terms of musical tastes (or otherwise, for that matter), but she's really hot, so there's that.

4. Why didn't she like them?
JLB is more often cited as a reason than anything else. 

5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?
I once got a BJ in the car while Blind Faith was playing. I know, I'm spoiled beyond my wildest dreams.

6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT?
Depends on the individual. I don't think musical taste is gender biased.

[Rickharris1011]

4. Why didn't she like them?
See Blind Melon review of Dream Theater.

Wow - this is memory lane.  I remember this interview in Guitar or Guitar Player.  I generally disliked Blind Melon before this interview because I couldn't stand Shannon Hoon's voice...I really disliked them afterwards because I thought they were pretentious douchbags (though I admit it was pretty funny when one of them mentioned he (JP) must have a lot of blinking lights in his rig).  I remembered thinking  "I hope Blind Melon is a one hit wonder and disappears quickly"  Turns out I was right, though I wasn't wishing for literal death to lead to their musical demise.

[Rickharris1011]

Out of curiosity, just how many are there? A brief questionnaire:

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater? Yes, but back in the mid 90's. 
2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater? In fact, I did.  I introduced a lot of people to DT - most of them musicians, but my sister actually really liked them around the time of awake.  She even went to one of their shows at Toad's in New Haven and had a great time. 
3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?  A big yes.  My wife (of 13 years) is the best example.  She was the reason I stopped trying.  It's OK to have different musical tastes.  Though as a sidebar - we always had a lot of fun playing panic attack on rock band (as long as she was the drummer)
4. Why didn't she like them? She's more into music for relaxation.  DT does not fit that bill
5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song? Certainly not in the last 13 years
6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT? Pull me under.  When in doubt, go with the hit (s)

[?]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater? Yes, one of my female friends likes them; in fact, I went to my first DT concert with her last year. I also know a girl who's heard the second disc of Six Degrees.
2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater? No.
3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater? I've never really tried to get anyone into DT, so I can't answer this one.
4. Why didn't she like them? See above. However, I played a JLB solo song to my sister once and she didn't like his "heavy metal mannerisms", so his voice might not appeal to her in DT, either.
5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song? No.
6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT? The aforementioned friend loves The Dance of Eternity, but she likes ragtime music so her tastes don't exactly match those of the average lady. One of her other favorites is Wither, so I think that one or another ballad like Hollow Years might be a good pick.

[Orbert]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater?
Only ever met one.  But she was a total babe and a really nice person as well if that matters.

2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?
No.

3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?
No, but mainly because I've never tried.  There's no way my wife would like them.

4. Why didn't she like them?
The usual reasons.  Can't sing along, not really catchy, instrumental wankery, etc.

5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?
No.

6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT?
Actually, she kinda liked "Surrounded".  The song part is really mellow and melodic.  We were in the car and it came up on shuffle.  I struck up conversation during the instrumental because I knew she wouldn't like it, but when it came back to "I know it's easier..." she asked me who it was.  That's about as close as she gets to interest in anything listen to.

[TheCountOfNYC]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater?
Yes. My mother and my girlfriend although neither like them to the extent that I do.

2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?
Yes. My mother happened to be home while I was listening to Octavarium (the album) and my girlfriend took me to see them for our anniversary and ended up liking them. I should also add that my sister heard me listening to Take the Time and liked it but doesn't like them past that.

3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?
No because I've never really tried to get people into them.

4. Why didn't she like them?
Since I've never tried, I can't answer this. I will say that my mother doesn't like the crazier songs like Octavarium or The Dance of Eternity because, well, they're crazy.

5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?
No. I don't use music as background noise for anything and especially not DT. If there's music on, I'm listening to it.

6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT?
My mom likes The Answer Lies Within and These Walls. My girlfriend likes Trial of Tears and On the Backs of Angels.

[hefdaddy42]

The only women I know who like DT are my daughters.  And I raised them that way.

[Orbert]

[JediKnight1969]

The only women I know who like DT are my daughters.  And I raised them that way.

THIS 

[Stadler]

The only women I know who like DT are my daughters.  And I raised them that way.

Same with me:  my daughter likes a couple songs ("This Is The Life", "Cover My Eyes", "To Live Forever") but I NEVER try to "convert" anyone.  I actually hate that idea, to be honest.  "Convert"?   I play what I like and if someone takes notice, fine (good or bad) and if they don't, so be it.

My daughter thinks James has an amazing voice.   She likes the doubled vocals on TITL, as well.

[cramx3]

No matter how many times my x listened to DT while in my car, she never caught on.  I would have that the psychology of hearing something enough would make you like it, but I guess not.  She did come see DT with me once though and she would always bring up that JLB peed his pants since it clearly looked like he did.

[hefdaddy42]

The only women I know who like DT are my daughters.  And I raised them that way.

Same with me:  my daughter likes a couple songs ("This Is The Life", "Cover My Eyes", "To Live Forever") but I NEVER try to "convert" anyone.  I actually hate that idea, to be honest.  "Convert"?   I play what I like and if someone takes notice, fine (good or bad) and if they don't, so be it.

My daughter thinks James has an amazing voice.   She likes the doubled vocals on TITL, as well.

It's kind of funny: although my daughters love DT as much as I do, their opinions are different than mine.  Both of them love The Dark Eternal Night, but neither of them care much for the longer progtastic pieces like Six Degrees, Octavarium, or A Change of Seasons.

They like In The Presence of Enemies, but I think mostly because it's split into two parts.

Of course, both of them LOVE A Dramatic Turn of Events, so that's cool.  My youngest likes DT12 a lot, especially Illumination Theory and The Enemy Inside.

[Tick]

The only women I know who like DT are my daughters.  And I raised them that way.

My daughter is 15. I tried! She just can deal with them. My wife likes them at least.
Good job, Hef!

[425]

...I NEVER try to "convert" anyone.  I actually hate that idea, to be honest.  "Convert"?   I play what I like and if someone takes notice, fine (good or bad) and if they don't, so be it.

Same. I don't think it's a good idea to try and force a band on somebody. If music is the topic you can bring up artists you like, but don't proselytize. That's just annoying.

[npiazza91]

Never.  My sister can't stand them and it pisses me off because she finds moments to put the band down specifically because I like them (she's 18 with a maturity of about 5).  She says she think Labrie's voice is "terrible" and that they are show offs.

Then again she likes Dance music and Lana Del Rey so...make of that what you will.  For some reason I seem to notice that the least self aware/least mature people listen to pop.  No idea why.

If we are talking about friends for a second, I have tried to get a few of my guy friends in DT, but they usually say that "I can respect them because they are great, but I personally don't like them".  Mutual respect on that cause.

[425]

For some reason I seem to notice that the least self aware/least mature people listen to pop.  No idea why.

Damn my immaturity and lack of self-awareness!


And while I'm being contentious, I'll just say that though I'm not the type of person to look for instances of discrimination, something about asking about sex in a thread otherwise about women being interested in a particular band makes me somewhat uncomfortable. I don't think it's a huge deal or anything, but IMO it's a little weird to ask that in this context.

[bl5150]

The only woman I know who likes DT is my sister.  And I raised her that way.

THIS 

   Her favourite bands are DT and Queensryche.  Brainwashed

[Calvin6s]

Things just got weird.

[MoraWintersoul]

And while I'm being contentious, I'll just say that though I'm not the type of person to look for instances of discrimination, something about asking about sex in a thread otherwise about women being interested in a particular band makes me somewhat uncomfortable. I don't think it's a huge deal or anything, but IMO it's a little weird to ask that in this context.

It's a bit weird. Might as well ask me how many boyfriends have I unsuccessfully tried to convert and all

The only woman I know who likes DT is my sister.  And I raised her that way.

THIS 

   Her favourite bands are DT and Queensryche.  Brainwashed

You know, my brother tried to play the part of the one who always brought new music into the house and "raised" the rest of us, and this ended when it became clear that my taste in music was much more diverse than his... when I was about 14 and he was 19 during this time he managed to try and persuade me that power metal was actually progressive metal, and when I bought my first DT CD having known the band for a few years already he told me in a very serious tone of voice "hey, did you know their singer was in a glam metal band"? noooo, I had NO IDEA.

[matthewmatt]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater?
Yep. My wife.

2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?
Isn't it obvious? Funny fact: 2 years after I've played Metropolis 2 for her, it was the three-part documentary "The Spirit Carries On", the one about looking for the new drummer, that closed the deal. I'm still trying to wrap my head around that one.

3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater?
Before my wife, I hardly even tried. I succeeded in luring women to Bob Dylan, Steely Dan, Pink Floyd, even, but Rush or Maiden or (gasp! God forbid!) Dream Theater were always the line.

4. Why didn't she like them?
Well... "Metal", "long", "complicated", "old" (seriously)... do you really have to ask? The usual deal, I'd say. 

5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?
Nope. That idea is simply too kinky to me.

6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT?
Depends. Is she a metalhead? Play Train to her and she'll love it, she'll hum This Dying Soul in a minute. Is she a pop-drenched cutie? Then your struggle is futile, but you could play Wither or Through Her Eyes to her and maybe... maybe it could work. Is she a prog fan? Rape her with Octavarium (the song) or Systematic Chaos. It worked for me. 

[commanderbob]

1. Do you know any women who like Dream Theater? No
2. Did you yourself introduce them to Dream Theater?
3. Have you ever failed to get a lady to share in your love with Dream Theater? Yes
4. Why didn't she like them? James voice, and a lack of emotion that connected with her.
5. Have you ever "gotten freaky" to DT, if so what song?  No
6. What, in your opinion, is the best Dream Theater song for introducing a women to the world of DT? Breaking All Illusions (#4 above loves THAT song)

[Darkstarshades]

I doubt there is any clear equation of "prog" as many bands got songs that are just fitting in the description but they're not considered prog. Many people just label prog as "extremely long songs with crazyasshard instrumentals and powerful voices".

As for the OP, the fact that no feminist has appeared to yell, proves that they're so scarce or they just don't care enough.

[425]

And while I'm being contentious, I'll just say that though I'm not the type of person to look for instances of discrimination, something about asking about sex in a thread otherwise about women being interested in a particular band makes me somewhat uncomfortable. I don't think it's a huge deal or anything, but IMO it's a little weird to ask that in this context.

It's a bit weird. Might as well ask me how many boyfriends have I unsuccessfully tried to convert and all

Alright, yeah, thanks for confirming that I wasn't being completely paranoid. Asking about women listening to DT is pretty valid because I think it's rather clear that the fanbase is majority male, but the way that "have you ever had sex while listening to DT" was rolled into the same thread made me a bit uncomfortable. I wanted to say something, but also I was kind of waiting for one of the female users to chip in, and, well, now you're here.

[King Postwhore]

What's so weird?  DT is a male centric style of music, sure there are female fans but we know what the % are. 

[425]

It's not that. As I was saying, this is a totally valid thing to be talking about.

It's question number 5 that I find weird. The other questions are basically about "do you know women who like this band?" And then that question asks if you've had sex while listening to the band. To me it's kind of weird to tie a question about having sex to the band's music into a series of questions about why women do or don't like it.

[King Postwhore]

Oh.


Well, it's not music to roll around too.  Mine was just by accident with the I-Pod on random.