The DTF Old As Mold Club v. 40 IS The New 30! Kids Stay Out!

[Orbert]

Comfortable and confident generally comes from experience.  You're comfortable and confident because you've done it before, you know how it works, and you're ready for most contingencies.  It's possible to be comfortable and confident when you've never done something before, but that's often borne of naiveté, and often you find out that you only thought you had it all figured out.

But you are allowed to be comfortable with yourself and confident in your own abilities, even if you're applying them to a new situation.

What about asking what the lady wants to do? What I want to do is to let her feel good, have a good time. To me, that means letting her do what she wants to do provided it doesn't cross my values etc.

That's a great idea actually.  Call her (standard "not too soon don't wanna seem too anxious, but don't wait too long don't want her to lose interest" warning) and chat a bit.  Talk about how much you enjoyed your last date.  Ask her if she'd like to do it again, and what she might want to do.  You've shown initiative, but also flexibility and willingness to let her make some decisions as well.

[Tick]

Lets get this thread back to what it is. A bunch of semi old farts conversing about shit.

[webpoet73]

I refuse to be called old as mold!  I am a very young 37.  Life is great now.  

[AndyDT]

I find that I tend to go on the same kind of dates. After all, eating and drinking is probably the best and easiest way to have a conversation.

[AndyDT]

Lets get this thread back to what it is. A bunch of semi old farts conversing about shit.

Don't let me stop you. I just appreciate the advice of people with a bit more experience.

[wkiml]

Lets get this thread back to what it is. A bunch of semi old farts conversing about shit.

Don't let me stop you. I just appreciate the advice of people with a bit more experience.

Since we are talking about getting back on topic and shit and such..let me tell you about this number 2 I dropped yesterd.......ohhh wait..not that type of shit...hey I woke up and I'm still breathing so its a good day

[YtseBitsySpider]

I've matured on my enjoyment of bj's since hitting my 30's.

I was in the minority for most of my late teens and 20's about being completely indifferent about the bj. Good or bad, I've had both but they didn't really get me to the desired results.....ever.
But.
In my 30's I've noticed the old boy needs a bit more coaxing to get him up to speed. And the the bj is now a munch enjoyed and welcomed part of the over all act.

*discuss*

[Tick]

I've matured on my enjoyment of bj's since hitting my 30's.

I was in the minority for most of my late teens and 20's about being completely indifferent about the bj. Good or bad, I've had both but they didn't really get me to the desired results.....ever.
But.
In my 30's I've noticed the old boy needs a bit more coaxing to get him up to speed. And the the bj is now a munch enjoyed and welcomed part of the over all act.

*discuss*

Well, its very erotic so that's always been the draw for me because the result is rarely as satisfying as I would hope it to be.

[Orbert]

the bj is now a munch enjoyed and welcomed

The blowjob is indeed a munch enjoyed and welcomed, but for me it always has been.

[EPICVIEW]

Im in this club...still..LOL

[wkiml]

the bj is now a munch enjoyed and welcomed

The blowjob is indeed a munch enjoyed and welcomed, but for me it always has been.

The BJ at times is all i want and need

[Orbert]

Seriously.  The older you get (and the older she gets), the more effort is involved.  Sometimes, actually most of the time, I'd be fine laying back having a munch enjoyed.

[Tick]

Thinking about King this morning. I hope he's doing ok.

[YtseBitsySpider]

this sentiment is popping up in a few threads....and Im in the same boat.
Funny how internet communities work....I don't even know the guy....but I feel bad for him and his family.

[Tick]

[Lowdz]

Another birthday came and went last week. Pipe and slippers beckon.

[wkiml]

Another birthday came and went last week. Pipe and slippers beckon.

Happy belated

[AndyDT]

I've been going on dates, seen a couple of people two or more times but nothing lasting a long time. I'm trying to stay in the game, finding and maintaining new dating contacts, but find this means I'm trying to keep open contacts with 2 or more women at the same time. I draw the line at seeing more than one person at the same time so I lose touch with some along the way. Am I doing this right?

[Orbert]

Do it "right" depends on the what you're comfortable with.  Being a practical guy, I don't see a huge problem with seeing more than one person casually, or even semi-seriously, as long as it's understood by all parties that you're just seeing each other and there's nothing exclusive.  The "practical" aspect comes in because I like to maximize my chances.  If one girl ends up not working out, there's always the other(s).

But that also means juggling schedules and keeping track of multiple sets of interests and priorities and all that.  You definitely do not want to find yourself asking your date how something turned out, you know, that thing you talked about last time, only to realize that it was a different girl and you got them mixed up for a minute.  So I can see why, as a rule, some guys prefer to keep things one-on-one.

The important thing is that you're back in the game and sharpening your skills.  Yes, that makes it sound rather impersonal or something, but as I said, I'm a practical guy, and this is something which often requires some thought and review along the way.  It sounds to me like you're doing fine.

[AndyDT]

Do it "right" depends on the what you're comfortable with.  Being a practical guy, I don't see a huge problem with seeing more than one person casually, or even semi-seriously, as long as it's understood by all parties that you're just seeing each other and there's nothing exclusive.  The "practical" aspect comes in because I like to maximize my chances.  If one girl ends up not working out, there's always the other(s).

But that also means juggling schedules and keeping track of multiple sets of interests and priorities and all that.  You definitely do not want to find yourself asking your date how something turned out, you know, that thing you talked about last time, only to realize that it was a different girl and you got them mixed up for a minute.  So I can see why, as a rule, some guys prefer to keep things one-on-one.

The important thing is that you're back in the game and sharpening your skills.  Yes, that makes it sound rather impersonal or something, but as I said, I'm a practical guy, and this is something which often requires some thought and review along the way.  It sounds to me like you're doing fine.

Thanks. Yes I don't want to shut somebody out only to find that the person I'm seeing was never serious but that's the risk.

[Tick]

I've been going on dates, seen a couple of people two or more times but nothing lasting a long time. I'm trying to stay in the game, finding and maintaining new dating contacts, but find this means I'm trying to keep open contacts with 2 or more women at the same time. I draw the line at seeing more than one person at the same time so I lose touch with some along the way. Am I doing this right?

If you have had multiple dates, your doing something right.
I was usually a one(serious) relationship at a time guy. If you see too many women at the same time, it fucks with your mind a bit too much, imo.

[Orbert]

I've never actually dated "too many women at the same time" so I wouldn't know, but it sounds like an awesome problem to have.

[King Postwhore]

It's good because in the end, one will come out on top for Andy.  He'll feel the attraction of one over the others.

[King Postwhore]

How many old farts had a certain initials for putting your high score up on a video games.  Mine was ALX.  For Alex Lifeson.  I always used that.

[Orbert]

I always just used BOB, since it's my name and it's only three letters.

[lonestar]

I used ICE, short for The Iceman, and  at the thread title change.

[AndyDT]

It's good because in the end, one will come out on top for Andy.  He'll feel the attraction of one over the others.

Thanks

[wkiml]

BRK   my initials ... also at the new Thread name

[El Barto]

How many old farts had a certain initials for putting your high score up on a video games.  Mine was ALX.  For Alex Lifeson.  I always used that.

LSD  Er, no particular reason. 

[lonestar]

How many old farts had a certain initials for putting your high score up on a video games.  Mine was ALX.  For Alex Lifeson.  I always used that.

LSD  Er, no particular reason. 

[AndyDT]

I'm trying to make more effort to phone up as I think it makes a difference sometimes. Do you normally wait until evening or phone at work? I phoned at work once before and the woman sounded awkward.

[Tick]

I'm trying to make more effort to phone up as I think it makes a difference sometimes. Do you normally wait until evening or phone at work? I phoned at work once before and the woman sounded awkward.

Don't call a woman at work unless your in a long standing relationship and its an important matter.

[King Postwhore]

I, to this day never bug my wife at work unless it's important.  If she has a cell she can't pick up at work, leave a little message for her to listen to durring her breaks.

[Orbert]

Yeah, that might not have been the best move.  Some jobs have times when you literally have nothing to do, yet your job requires that you man your station just in case something comes up, but most jobs have you busting ass for eight hours straight, especially nowadays as employers squeeze every dime out of you that they can.  You don't want to assume someone can just chat while at work.

[AndyDT]

Thanks. I think that's good advice although nowadays a text (which I sent before phoning at night) might be useful or polite.