Well hey guys, I don't know if this will be a TL;DR post, but if it is, I'll summarize it after I get all my thoughts typed out.
TL;DR: I strongly feel like I'm the wrong gender and want to change that, but don't know how to approach my parents.
Well, let me start it off, Over the last few months I've been struggling with an issue, a personal issue, and it was on my mind constantly. It was at the forefront my mind while at work, while out, and while at home. My parents sort of took notice, telling me I looked depressed, a lot on my plate, and I knid of lied, just because it was something I don't know if I can talk to them about. To go off on a tangent, my parents are very supportive, always there to give me a hand, or to just be there for me in general. My family is very religious, Mom's side being Catholic, Bio Dad's side being Baptist/Methodist, and my Dad's side being Roman Catholic, so the fact that they are completely fine and engage in conversation about the music I listen to (Metal, Weird Electronic/Pop shit, etc) and that they're actively cheering from the sidelines and helping me in anyway they can while I attend Full Sail for a bachelor's in Recording Arts is just absolutely amazing, and I love them so much for it. But all the while, I can't tell them about my personal dilemma, and now I'll delve into that.
I strongly feel that I was born the wrong gender. These thoughts came a few months ago, but it's most certainly not the first time I've thought about it. All throughout my childhood, I was fascinated by the female gender in general, and often would daydream/fantasize about what it'd be like to be a girl. And through out thinking about it and such, at first I just decided "Well, I'm already 20, so I think it's too late for me to do anything" and for a couple weeks I just went with that, but throughout those two weeks, I thought NO, I don't know if I can just do nothing about it and live with that feeling of I'm not who I should be for the rest of my life. A few lines from the song "Bathyalpelagic I: Impasses" really had a big impact on this change of thought. The lines goes "I've Chosen To Embrace, All The Things That I Cannot Change. But I'm Not Sure If This Helps, To Relieve You From Bitterness." and "How Much Control Do We Have Over What We Wish For?" and I just came to realize, I don't think I can just muffle what I truly feel, without feeling bitter about it for the rest of my life, and that I do in fact have the ability to do something about it. That's when I started looking into Hormone Replacement Therapy, some other therapies to solve some "Man Characteristics", and finally, that surgery Gender Replacement Surgery that does what the name implies. And the more I research, the more I think, "I want to go through with this."
And that's where the roadblock comes up, and it's who other than my parents/family. I've told my closest friends, who pretty much support me and tell me to do what makes me happy, and I've told my oldest younger brother, who knows I'm Atheist as well and is kind enough not to tell my parents, who I actually suspect know I'm Atheist, but choose to say I'm a non practicing Catholic. What makes it a bit more complicated (I guess) is that I think I'm bi-sexual, but wouldn't even think of hooking up with guys until after completing my changes and even then I'm not sure, as it's more of a fascination, yet still retain attraction to women, and I guess there's some other exceptions but those aren't really relevant and are kind of NSFW... So I earnestly think they'd be more accepting if I told them I were gay rather than, "Hey guys, I feel very strongly that I'm the wrong gender and am going to take the steps to change that so that I can truly identify as a women" It's just impossible to even begin comprehending how I'm going to approach them with this, as it's not something I'd really be able to hide, considering the fact that my mom and dad live 90 miles away and visit often. I feel like this is something I should talk to them about, all the while maintaining I'm going through with it, so really it's more me informing them. And I don't feel like I can do that in any way that doesn't end up with them shunning me along with most of my family as well, and that scares the living shit out of me. I have no idea how I'd be where I am today without them, and the very realistic chance that they'll want nothing to do with me fills me with dread, and makes me want to cry. I was surprised by my brother, but even for being religious, he has fairly liberal views, unlike my parents.
I just wanted to vent that out here, maybe get some advice on how to approach my parents with it, and it just lifts some weight off my shoulders to vent this out somewhere.