It's amazing the difference one day makes.
I wake up today, happy, looking forward to going to the gym tonight and watching Survivor. Excited about having a really stellar band that's getting off the ground.
Then my drummer calls me.
"Did you see what (singer) said to (random chick who I don't know) last night?" Who? He explains and I say "Funny you say that, I got a friend request from her this morning, and saw that she is a singer in another local band, but didn't think much more of it."
He goes on: Apparently, our singer must have been private messaging her on FB and whenever she didn't get back to him soon enough (apparently she'd gone to the bathroom), he gets all huffy, and starts being a dick. It escalates. Considerably. So she decides to screencap the entire thing and post it to her FB wall telling anybody who reads it to avoid this guy. Her last post to him (he'd blocked her by then) was something along the lines of "Good luck getting gigs with your band".
All I can figure is he was drinking. Because last November, I found a post on his FB page where he put up a long apology for drinking too much and making an ass of himself at a benefit gig. Finally, FINALLY, something goes right and the planets start to align, and I’m genuinely f*cking EXCITED about a band for the first time in a long time, and now this. This chick is FB friends with a LOT of people on the local scene. A lot of people who will see this and be all WTF? Let him go and we’ve lost one of the only
people in the area who can sing this kinda stuff. Keep him and we risk looking like shitbags who condone this kind of behavior.
I'm hurt, deeply. I know a thousand worse things could be happening to me right now, I know, it isn't like somebody died, but this is a huge blow. All morning, I have been a nervous wreck and upset and lost. I had to GTFO at lunch and just go next door for a beer to try to calm down a little. He's messaged the rest of the guys in the band this morning, discussing songs to add, like nothing happened. He likely doesn't know she's posted this and that the drummer and I know about it. I HAVE to talk to him and tell him we know. But sadly, I feel I need a few drinks in me. I'm a bit of a pushover sometimes and I cannot let this kinda behavior slide. My last singer was an unpredictable person when he got drunk, and he would rant at people on FB, making the rest of us look bad by proxy. I cannot allow that to happen again, always walking on egg shells, wondering when the next f*ckup will come.
I do not know if this is recoverable. I'm pissed, hurt, upset, devastated.