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Offline wkiml

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Just some background for those that don't know about my personal life ....

I am a recovering alcoholic ...2 1/2 years ago I decide to I was sick and tired of being sick and tired and decided to clean myself up ...with the exception of a one week binge 18 months ago I have remained sober, it hasn't been easy, but its something I am grateful for each and everyday

I am also a divorced dad of 3 boys (17/15/12) I get along great with my ex and I can say she is probably my best friend.

I work on "Wall street" and have for the last 27 years , I was let go from my company in Oct 2009 and was out of work for a year. Oct 2010 i get a call out of the blue with a new job offer (consulting) within 2 months I get offered a perm job with the company and last week I got a raise (10%) which is always helpful. My oldest son just passed his drivers test, which mean I don't have to play taxi any longer, for the most part my life was good, not great but good

My ex was diagnosed with Cancer 9 years ago after 2 re-occurences she had been cancer free for the last 6 years , about 9 months ago, they found a node on her left lung. She went and had the surgery to have it removed, 3 month follow-up they find a node on her right lung, again more surgery. We went back again this past Monday as part of her routine check-ups , they found a tumor on her kidney ( they claim the tumor is almost 8 cms) and that the chance of saving the kidney is very small, as part of the testing they drew some blood, they say her results came back extremely abnormal.  They fear the cancer has gotten into her blood and now maybe running rampant, Chemo isn't an option at this point as the last cycle she received really messed with her healthy organs and immune system.

The kids are devastated as am I, but i need to try to stay strong for the kids

Sorry for going on and on, but just needed somewhere to rant/vent get this shit off my chest


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Quote from: senecadawg2 on July 17, 2012, 10:54:32 PM
In defense of peanut butter...

try getting the neighbor's dog to lick your balls with a spoonful of chummus.

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really sorry to hear this news, wkiml

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Really sorry to hear this, it's a horrible feeling to worry about someone you love and have to watch them suffer mentally and physically. I hope you are the kinda guy who can open up to your friends about this too as you could probably use a little support right now.
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I'm sorry to hear about ex Bill.  Hang tough, I know you will.
     

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Dang man, sorry to hear about everything. Sending good thoughts your way.

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Man, that's terrible.  Stay strong.   

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Prayer said and, by all means, PM me if you ever need someone to chat with about this. I'm literally on DTF for hours at a time and would be glad to know I'm helping make any aspect of this easier for you to handle. Take care buddy :tup
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That's a real bummer :( stay strong, man

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Sorry to hear that man, will be praying for you and yours.
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That's horrible man... My thoughts are with you.

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 :(, so sorry. Thinking of y'all.
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Thanks for all your word of encouragement and prayers

@blackfloyd...much appreciated

@cinema...Being a person in recovery myself I have a large network of people to open up too
Quote from: senecadawg2 on July 17, 2012, 10:54:32 PM
In defense of peanut butter...

try getting the neighbor's dog to lick your balls with a spoonful of chummus.

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 Sorry wkiml. You have been through a lot and have endured. Try and stay positive around the kids, it will help them cope a little easier if they see you feeling upbeat and optimistic. You can be there greatest strength right now.
Hang in there and god bless.
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wow... you and your family have been through a lot wkiml... sorry to hear all these.... hang in there.... you'll be in my thoughts!

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Hang in there man, my heart goes out to your family. 

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Sorry to hear of this wkiml.   :(   Hang in there. 
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