First of all, in case it crosses anyone's mind, this is not about DTF.
I've been a member there for almost as long, however, and during that time, I've interacted with a lot of people, made some online friends, even helped a few out by hosting some stuff online for them, since I happen to have access to a lot of online web capacity. But in the past two or three years, maybe more, membership has noticeably dropped off, the PC game which originally brought us all together is quite old now and few even play it anymore, and we're really down to just a handful of regulars. It sometimes feels like it's still going just because no one wants it to end. We're friends now and have been for a while, and it's hard to just walk away from that. You don't want the party to end, and unlike the real world, there's no "gotta get up for work tomorrow" or any real reason why it can't go on. Except that it's just kinda boring now and we've sunken below critical mass IMO.
It would be rude to leave without saying Goodbye and posting one of those horrible "Goodbye" posts, and unless I grossly overestimate my presence there, I'm sure it will be met with not just farewells, but some pleas to stay. That will be difficult. But even worse will be the feeling I get whenever I see one of those posts. Usually it's right after two or more high-profile members have had a major disagreement, and one of them posts saying "I've decided that this place isn't right for me anymore..." or "I find that I can no longer associate with people who..." or something similar. Usually I think to myself "Fine, fucking leave, okay?"
But this isn't like that. People have slowly and quietly just stopped posting there, the place is dying, and I feel sad about that, but I do have my reasons. The problem is that my reasons will sound just as pathetic as the examples I've given above, but again, I think it would be rude to just leave. I do consider some of them actual friends, not just online friends, even though we've never met. But the fact is, we have never met, we never will, and I'm kinda looking to cut down some of my online life and spend a little more time in the real world.
Now that I think about it, it's been a while since I've even seen a Goodbye thread. I guess today, the norm really is to just stop posting, leave the party without saying Goodbye to everyone? How does this work nowadays?